Big Sister and all her cousins G&T, but is my youngest DD.

[annw1]

I'm so confused my youngest DD is in reception and has just been moved down a group. This is causing me grave concern as I don't think they are reaching her or harnessing her abilities.
My eldest DD is in Y2 and was added to the school G&T list at the start of Y1 as having talent across all subject areas. She accelerated through the school reading scheme and is now doing KS2 work across both maths and literacy.
All of their cousins are G&T and it is very easy to assume that my youngest DD is also. It was a shock when the school first told me about my eldest DD and I have had to take the time to read up extensively about it all. I therefore know that my youngest DD bears almost all of the characteristics of a child with high learning potential. She is highly energetic and gets bored very easily. At her first parents evening we were told that 'she does not listen'. That did not surprise me I struggle to get through to her if she is focussed on an activity, she just will not budge. The fact that they could not extend the she doesn't listen to the thought that my DD could be distracted by something that has caught her attention outside or something within the classroom tells me that they have not worked her out yet.
At home she will happily sound out words in books whilst at school they are sending books home without any words in. I've tried to tackle them but all I get is that 'she will be moved on when they think she is ready'. That was last week and this week I find they have moved her down an ability group.
She can ask the most profound questions and will continue to question until she is happy with the information that she gets. Yes she is slow to pick up on her writing but then that is common in a G&T kid whose intellect is far ahead of her ability to hold a pencil and write with it.
I'm lost and unsure where to go, they will not listen to me the whole situation is made worse by the fact that she is in a job-share situation for teachers. Neither has reached a point where they know her. She prefers one over the other and unfortunately it is the one that she does not like who seems to mainly look after her needs.
The fact that she has been moved down an ability group just alerts me to the fact that they are not getting through to her. I want to arrange another meeting but I honestly don't think I will get anywhere. What should I do..

[kitchendiner]

I take your point SatinSandals. Here is an interesting article that has a different perspective:

www.davidsongifted.org/db/Articles_id_10124.aspx

[Mattissy]

So she's 4, possibly 5 and you're worried because she hadn't been labelled g&t? Get a grip!

[annw1]

Thank you all again - all schools are different. Time will pass I'm just going to make sure both my DDs are happy. DD2 was ecstatic tonight because she has been moved up a level in numeracy. That is all I want her happiness.

[Iamnotminterested]

Is she ecstatic, or are you?