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[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

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In the last 3 weeks I have had one morning where I woke up not in pain.

I have rules out it being my bed as it happened when Dh and I went away for two nights too.

I get pains in the day now too and I can feel the pains and aches in my bones.

It eases off throughout in the day in my torso but in my arms, hands and legs I can get unexpected twinges.

I have arthritis and osteoporosis in my head.

DH said I had to go to the GP but what can they do really?

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

I am starting therapy in September but sometimes that feels so far away.

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

I am in the SE.

Just got back.

Did 32 lengths and now I am having some soup.

Limping when I got out of the car but is easing now.

Fancy an afternoon nap but wake up feeling worse when I sleep in the day.

[pindy]

I agree with sleepsforwimps about the aromatheraphy massage. I am a qualified therapist and see many, many emotional clients. They are usually under a lot of stress for whatever reason, do try and find one and have a treatment, I'm sure you will feel much better. Try to stop worrying as this will make you feel worse.

Where abouts in the country are you?

Take care x

[sleepsforwimps]

Really glad to hear you've seen a doctor and that you've spoken to your DH. Goodluck with the blood tests, hope you get some answers.

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

Just got back.

Saw GP who is always so lovely to me.

Has given me some medicine for stomach tenderness.

Going back on Monday for blood tests to see what is going on with my bines.

Typically very little hurt while there but I can feel it pulling in my legs now while bending over to do this.

Phoned DH in tears. I can hear the worry in his voice.

Going swimming now. DH suggested it.

Thank you all so much.

Feel so pathetic.

[OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper]

I've been down the chronic back pain rout for the last 14 years, although I suspect my case is not as extreme a SIFW's.

You don't want this to get entrenched, and it's unlikely to sort itself out without some help.

As to your doctor thinking it's psychological - so what?

For all we know, gps are thinking that every time they see us, but it's their job to sort out whatever we're presenting with.
Don't forget that sense of entitlement - your health and wellbeing are just as important as anyone else's.
Having multiple problems is no reason to hesitate approaching the doc.
Fwiw, I'm currently seeing a chiropractor who is recommending a course of rehabilitation - a few sessions of adjustments and 'dry needling' (acupuncture but without the yin/yang/chi nonsense), then a course of Pilates.
I'm quite hopeful it will work, but have tried loads of different approaches over the years - it's a matter of seeing what works for you.

[slightlycrumpled]

Morning FBG. Well done on making that phonecall and there is no shame in crying to them!

A couple of years ago my youngest son was very unwell. Constantly in and out of hospital blah blah and I felt so ill. I physically hurt, I couldn't breathe properly myself and it was psychological. It didn't however make my symptoms any less real. They were real and I was feeling ill.

My DH eventually had enough and took me to the doctors, I was in the consulting room for nearly and hour, crying and being examined. I was referred for counselling which really helped. Please tell your GP exactly how you are feeling.

I'm sorry you are feeling this rotten.

[sleepsforwimps]

But maybe if you could open up to him, he might be able to help.

I wish I could suggest something that would make you feel better, but not knowing what is making you feel so low I don't know where to start.

When your DH gets home do tell him how wobbly you've felt today and ask him for big hug. A good hug from someone you love is always a good medicine for the heart.

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

Because I don't want to talk to him about my emotions. He is rally busy at work and I can't explain it myself.

[sleepsforwimps]

I have suffered a back problem for 10 years, so have alot of experience of pain, stress and trips to doctors/hospitals.. First step for you is to see a doctor, see what he says, then take it from there. Stress can make pain alot worse believe me, that's why I think you need to do something that will also help you try and relax.

Why can't your DH help you?

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

What if they just say it is psychological though? Or think it but don't say it?

I want my DH but he can't help me.

[sleepsforwimps]

I'm really glad you phoned, the crying shows how much you do need to see a doctor. Hope you get an appointment soon.

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

and the blinking email won't work and i need to email hubby

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

triage nurse ringing me back

no appts until aug 6th to see the gp i wanted too

i think they only agreed as i was crying down the phone

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

on phone to doctors

[sleepsforwimps]

Stress can do funny things to the body, hits weak spots, makes you hold yourself differently and pain can radiate, so where you are feeling some pain may not be where the problem actually is. I really think seeing a complementary therapist would be a good idea for you. But it is complementary, if the pain continues you do still need to see a doctor. I don't know what's making your heart break but time is a great healer, things will get better.

[OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper]

Back pain can be synonymous with depression - but that doesn't mean it isn't real.
Your muscles might simply have been mis-used over a period of time without you realizing it, and they've finally started protesting.

Your GP will give you a quick exam to determine whether it's a joint or muscular problem, then may refer you for physio - afair the entitlement is 10 sessions on the NHS.

I'd change surgeries if poss though - couldn't be arsed with the Spanish Inquisition every time I needed an appointment.

But in the meantime, you need to develop a sense of entitlement - you're a relatively young woman with a long life ahead and little childen depending on you.
You shouldn't be starting each day with pain of any kind, and their role is to fix you up so that you can carry out your function to the level your DCs deserve.
Keep this in your head when you pick up the phone.

[Elibean]

Very possible as broken hearts, depression, emotional pain generally can easily manifest in physical pain. dh (three years after his brother died, when he couldn't push the pain away any longer) had terrible pains and physical symptoms, till he got the right 'diagnosis' and help.

Maybe crying a lot is exactly what your body needs? Whether its to cyber-ears or RL ones, or, preferably, both?

I always get body pain when I have emotional pain, its our psyche's very clever way of getting our attetion, I think...

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

I am wondering if the body pain is there because my heart is breaking and I am just so worn down by it all.

[sleepsforwimps]

You can search for an Aromatherapist through this site. My mum is an Aromatherapist/Reflexologist and I can guarantee you she has people cry to her all the time, their job is to treat mind, body and spirit so absolutely no need to feel embarrassed if you did cry.

[missingtheaction]

why can't you just go to the GP? or a physiotherapist? they will be delighted to help you and probably see several crying patients per day

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

Where would I go for that please?

I think I would embarrass myself by crying.

[sleepsforwimps]

Tell you what, how about booking yourself in for an aromatherapy massage? It might help release a nerve if that is what's causing the pain, it'll help you relax and it's nice to be pampered, I think you need that. Go on, treat yourself.

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

I can't

I would cry so much

thank you though