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Cancer support thread #72 - come in, we're here for you
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Bloodybridget · 21/09/2019 09:48
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Brassica ·
01/10/2019 17:13
Just a quick check in from me.
Iput, everyone else has said the right stuff. Being worried but not knowing if you should be is hard, and it doesn’t really help for people around you to minimise your fears. No doubt they’re doing it for good reasons and because they’re secretly worried too, but you do need to be heard. We’re all here to listen and nod along if you need it, and meanwhile hopefully you’ll get some answers soon.
Is your friend always so bloody brusque meercat?! That sounds hurtful and unnecessarily curt. I’d be thinking about spitting in her cocktail at some point during the week 
. Hope the break is doing you good otherwise.
Welcome back, Ben, I wondered how you were getting on. I’m TNBC too but they found no mutation for me so I’m very sorry to hear you have all this worry and extra surgery. I guess as it’s preventative you should be able to ask for some respite before having the oopherectomy done, especially as you are feeling so battered. Totally get your comments about the person in the mirror too. It’s not a pretty transformation by cancer, but you will get back to being more like your old self, albeit changed - I’m sure you will be able to identify something positive to come out of it in the end. That sounds Pollyanna-ish and I don’t want to be annoying or patronising, but I do think in general life experiences give us something as well as testing us. But there is nothing wrong with finding it negative when it gives you pain and worry.
Sorry the armpit is still troublesome Trumpton. Hope the meeting with the nurse went well for Skap, and that your strength returns and bloods hold up over these next few days WTF so that you can tick off the last chemo.
I had a day with my work colleagues yesterday at a team building thing, and everyone was very nice and expressed their pleasure in seeing me etc so that was good. Definitely having finished chemo on Friday has given me a mental and physical boost because on day 3 I’d normally have been resting and feeling a bit weary, but I lasted all day and I to the evening too. It felt good.
Waves to anyone I missed out.
Iputthescrewinthetuna ·
01/10/2019 17:39
You lot are so lovely! So my beautiful friend who has the mumps at the moment cheered me up. She knew exactly what I needed to hear. The words 'oh shit, thats not good, if its bad I'm here through every appointment or any time you need me to have kids, if its good news we will celebrate'
I understand why people will say 'you'll be fine' I would say the exact same thing.
I am here now cuddling my babies. Will be having some birthday cake soon. Will come back later to read the thread. I already feel like this thread will be my home for a while. 
Bloodybridget ·
02/10/2019 04:02
Snows you poor thing, really sorry you are suffering with skin problems, and lack of sleep while you were away. Do hope things improve very soon.
I am seeing my consultant tomorrow, have decided to ask about follow up when chemo is over (because I have no idea what they do or when), and wondering if I also want to ask searching questions about recurrence - such as, if it happens once, is it more likely/almost certain to happen again or not?
I have a tickly cough, my stye hasn't cleared up although it's better than it was, and I have some neuropathy in my foot. How likely is it my bloods will be ok for Friday 
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ellenanora5 ·
02/10/2019 08:40
Good morning everyone, sorry I haven't been on for a while, have had a lot going on with ds2 and trying to juggle his appointments with mine have me fed up to be honest, think I have it all sorted now, the radiotherapy team have been really good with changing times for me, they are very understanding, I only started radiotherapy and already had to have times changed for the next two weeks, which is a pain for them as they already agreed with no early or late afternoon appts to accommodate ds2 needs.
Under my arm is starting to get really sore since the radio started, wonder is that because of the position I'm in when its going on, going to mention it today.
I'm sorry to hear everyone is going through such a hard time at the moment, and welcome to all newcomers, the posters here are truly wonderful and so supportive.
Has anyone got the flu injection, will they give it when we are having treatment.
As always 
for everyone and you are in my thoughts.
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Brassica ·
02/10/2019 08:58
I’d echo the comments on cold capping Skap. If you don’t want to try it, that’s entirely fair enough and a sufficient reason to say no. I don’t think the nurses will think anything of it if you arrive on the day and say no. I did two sessions with it, found it bearable (the first 10 minutes were shockingly cold but I put headphones on and listened to a favourite song - really took my mind off it) but snows is right, it adds a lot of time on to treatment and it also didn’t prevent hair loss for me so I had no qualms about stopping.
Sorry your skin has been so sore snows and you must have been kicking yourself about the painkillers. I hope it improves quickly now. How’s the tiredness?
Bridget you sound a bit run down don’t you, I hope the stye goes away soon. I found the blood count didn’t necessarily correlate with how I was feeling - sometimes I felt fine but it was on the floor, other times I felt awful and scraped through. Maybe if taste buds and appetite allow you could eat some red meat and have orange juice or something to try and get some iron on board? I’ve been thinking the same thing about starting to ask what happens re monitoring when all this is over. I think it’s sensible if you feel you aren’t the type to over analyse!
Welcome back, flyingarcher, but sorry you’re going through such a lot at the moment. Just feeling rotten and exhausted is bad enough but you’re obviously now concerned about your toenail. Let’s hope it’s just doing a good impression of a melanoma but is nothing new to deal with.
And welcome Quizard. It’s very good that your GP has jumped into action but of course you must be full of worry and also feeling pretty poorly if you’ve had dire rear so long. Do you have people you can lean on as well in real life? How old are you? Have you been able to work while all this has been going on? It must be exhausting.
I’m off to see my surgeon today to get a date for lumpectomy and then we are meeting up with old friends to celebrate one of them turning 50. Hope everyone has a good day and those feeling unwell get some relief.
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