Hello Joanne427, am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I have early-onset RA and was diagnosed at 32 after I finished breastfeeding my DD.
When I was first diagnosed, I was in excruciating pain. It affected all of the joints in my hand and feet and also affected my legs and arms. Just knowing I was going to have to walk up the stairs was enough to make me cry and the pain of doing up the poppers on my DD's vests would bring tears to my eyes. I was virtually housebound as it was painful to walk and I couldn't really drive.
That was in the May of 2008 and I was put on Salazopyrin which takes three months to kick in. I was put on it because you can still conceive and breastfeed while taking it if you need to. Steroid injections helped temporarily as did Diclofenac Sodium.
My employers were fantastic (I was on mat leave at the time), sending me to occupational health who looked into different ways to make working for me easier - including speech recognition software for my PC.
Fast forward to October 2008 and the drugs well and truly kicked in. I didn't need any special software or treatment and was just as I was before developing RA. I can do everything I did before May 2008 and am very confident of being able to control any future flares.
I've now come off my drugs temporarily to TTC DC2, but I could have stayed on them if needed. Pregnancy should keep any inflammation at bay, but I'll probably have a flare-up afterwards, but I know it will only be temporary.
I'm sorry this is long, but wanted to reassure you that the way RA is making you feel now is not how it's going to be for ever. The fact that you've been diagnosed quickly is one of the key ways that you can reduce dmage to your joints. It's very frightening when you first find out, and when you're told about the worse-case scenario of a wheelchair.
I would second everything that Wallydoodle has said to you - everyone is different, but there are plenty of different treatments now for RA and hopefully it won't take too long to find the one that works for you. I'd also point you to the National Rheumatoid Arthritis Society www.rheumatoid.org.uk/ and the Arthritis Research Campaign www.arc.org.uk/
You may also find this complementary therapies report from ARC useful, not much for RA, but I found it useful and take fish and evening primrose oil supplements as well www.arc.org.uk/arthinfo/patpubs/6300/6300.asp
Good luck, I hope that you are back on top form sooner rather than later