Oats are fine - the less processed the better, because once the factories get hold of you food, you are losing nutrients and gaining a whole load of rubbish and you are paying for that privilege. Try a few out - bake flapjacks with the unsuccessful applicants!
I doubt there a kid in Britain who sticks to the 3 tsp of sugar a day? That's not including starch or naturally occurring sugar in fruit though is it?
Starch is not the enemy. It depends on your goals....if you are concerned with your gut health have a look at resistent starch.
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But it's important to remember that while we use the term healthy diet frequently it means different things to different people because everyone has different needs and goals. It is not about losing weight but it can be if that's what your goal is.
My kids are skinny, verging on the underweight, they don't have massive appetites, I want to ensure they get a full suite of nutrients into their bodies, with loads of fuel to energise them through the day and I want to avoid needless additives and other rubbish.
I limit their exposure to wheat products because due to lots of hereditary conditions in my family, I feel it's not a particularly healthy product to consume lots of, so I wouldn't be happy with them having wheat 3 times a day - easier than you think - breakfast cereal, sandwich for lunch, pasta for dinner. They may choose a wheat option at school next year for lunch and I will try to make sure their other two meals do not contain wheat - it's a loose rule...I just take it into account when I am meal planning.
Have a look at the ingredients in your average sliced loaf, if you thought Felicity Lawrence did a hatchet job on Breakfast Cereals she is equally damning on most commercially produced sliced bread. After reading her description in her book Not on the label10 years ago, I bought a bread machine.
Anyway I'm contemplating investing in a waffle maker, my dcs like variety and I provide it to steer them away from processed junk.
This week we're on holiday, all bets are off and the dcs are allowed their choice of boxed cereal but it's not being eaten, instead they are choosing huge chunks of watermelon and pain au chocolate - and while the latter is hardly saintly it does show that the forbidden fruit doesn't always have the most appeal.