I've just had a really unnerving encounter with a man on the street who was clearly following a script of 'The Game'.
He just came up to me in the street and said some rubbish about me catching his eye, then he said that he was filming our interaction by hidden camera "for my YouTube channel".
I'd like to say I told him to get lost, but I just got really unnerved and tried to say something polite to extracate myself, but I was really panicking about the camera thing even though I knew it was probably bollocks.
My question is why does this keep happening to me? I've had at least 10 of these over the years. I'm only averagely attractive, don't dress 'sexily' and I'm now mid-30s.
Does anyone else get these encounters? They make me really nervous for ages after and I don't know how to make myself less approachable. A few months ago a guy (who also said he had a hidden camera) carried on following me down the street when I said I was engaged asking stuff like "is it a full-time engagement?!".
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Thehonestybox · 16/06/2022 18:55
skybluee · 16/06/2022 19:38
I used to stop to talk to these people but this is the solution:
Imagine your feet are like a conveyor belt. No matter what is coming out of your mouth or what they are saying, your feet have to keep moving, pit pat, pit pat. So you're going past them. If you don't stop... this will end. They can't do anything. I do this to everyone now, leaf-letters etc. I just say I'm sorry, I'm in a rush... and my feet keep moving. It really helps.
IrisVersicolor · 19/06/2022 23:09
Don’t know if it’s because I grew up in London as opposed to a small town or countryside, but the frequency of this kind of nonsense from teenage years onward just gave me (one) zero tolerance of this nonsense.
You just have to learn to be tough.
Thehonestybox · 16/06/2022 19:07
Wow - that's strangely the most succinct and perfect response!
I feel a bit ridiculous that I just spent 5 minutes typing out my rambling question while still shaking with nerves
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