Am I too old to start a family at 32&36 years old couple .

[Ilovebees]

I just wanted to see other people opinions on if you think we would be considered as old parents ? I am 32 and partner 36? We started 4 years ago but found to have unexplained infertility issues and now at 32 , should I stop trying as I’m not sure if it will ever happen and ofcourse I will only get older and older :(

[tomago]

No, it might not happen but it might

[Avocadohair18]

Absolutely not! That's younger than both my husband and I when we had our first.

[Nix32]

Of course you're not too old! You are definitely young enough but if you've been trying for 4 years and nothing is happening, then it's time for a chat with a doctor.

[Capmagturk]

Absolutely not too old. Have you had fertility treatment off the NHS? My friends just fell pregnant at 31 on her second try of ivf. Don't give up unless you decide mentally you just can't do it anymore. Even then there's other options, good luck.

[cariadlet]

I got pregnant at 34 and had dd at 35. Where I live, it's not an unusual age to become a mum.

[PermanentTemporary]

Nope. I would get going now. A friend was told by her GP she was too young for referral then when she went back 2 years later she was told she was too old. Find out and stay on it.

I ws 35 when ds was born and dp was 39 so I certainly think your ages are fine.

[Neolara]

Of course you're not too old. Where I live, it's about average.

[Dacadactyl]

Not too old in the grand scheme of things.

It'd have felt too old for me, but if id not had kids by the time I'd reached 32 or 36, I'd have still tried to have them.

My mum was 35 and 37 having us and that was nearly 40 years ago.

[Brownhairdontcare]

32???? Friend of mine had her first at 45!

[LadyGaGasPokerFace]

Huh? Me and dh were 33 and 37 when we became first time parents. Then dd2 arrived nearly two years later. Not old at all.

[Ilovebees]

Yes we have had all the fertility checks ups and blood tests and all has come back very good . We have had 4 pregnancy’s but ended early at 6 weeks so the issue is recurrent loss . No answers that doctors can give to us as all comes back normal .

[Nori10]

No, I was 33 and 39 when I had my two and I don't feel like old an parent. If you want to stop for your own reasons relating to infertility, then that's totally derstandable. But if your ages is the only reason youre considering stopping, i'd say it's not a problem. Loads of people have kids late 30's / early 40's these days.

[WestendGrrls]

We were quite a bit older than you both when we had our first, and we are very much enjoying family life. I consider you to be a great age for parenthood and wish you success with it.

[SKG231]

Too old at early thirties? Well that gives me no hope at the age of 34 and not thinking about trying for a good few years.

long gone are the days of girls being told they must marry and have children at a young age because that’s all their good for in life.

[WorkCleanRepeat]

After 12 years of trying I finally had my children at 33 and 35.

I'm not the oldest Mum at the school gate. Mid 30's seems to be the norm in my social circle.

[Isthisexpected]

I find these posts extremely concerning. Unless you live in a black hole you must know of women in either your own life or the media who have babies in their mid 30s. You also have access to the internet so can look up the research on healthy live births to a woman in her 30s.

To me, if you're incapable of doing some research on the most basic aspect of parenting (healthy pregnancy and foetal/ maternal health) you may need a lot of support and hand holding as a mother.

[ringmybe11]

DS was conceived fairly quickly when we were 38 and 45. I think the question really is whether you can cope emotionally with continuing to try if you've already experienced multiple losses.

[NCGrandParent]

It's definitely not too old at all. Age at first birth is very linked to socio economic factors as well as cultural/family norms though so it may feel old for you if it's not common in your immediate cricle. In many places in UK, it would be on the young side.

There is obviously another question her though of how long do you keep trying for. That's something you and your husband may need help considering. I am so sorry for your losses. It must have been such a difficult 4 years.

[NCGrandParent]

@Isthisexpected Nasty.

[PermanentTemporary]

Four losses? You poor thing. No wonder you're questioning everything. I hope you get some medical support and answers.