My husband and I split when DS was six month's old die to domestic violence issues. At the time my MIL completely took his side, understandably I suppose, as he's her son. But she 'put up with' similar behaviour from his dad throughout their marriage and basically told me to 'man up' (she said 'woman up') and put up with it too. Since I decided I wouldn't and left, she hasn't contacted me in two years. Now she's announced she's coming to visit her grandson, out of the blue, and wants to spend as much time as possible with him for the 2 weeks that she's here.
She lives in another country. He's never met her before (he's now 2 1/2). And she's announced she's coming when we're actually away on holiday, so there's only 3 days that her visit overlaps with us being here (she's staying with her son, my ex), and she wants to see him each of those three days.
So my ethical conundrum is, I don't want to deny my son access to his paternal grandmother, but I don't know that he would benefit longer-term from an intensive time with her now if she just disappears from his life again. And I would have preferred she had asked me first if the dates of her trip suited. Do I arrange for them spend time together? And should it be all three days that she's here, or just a once off?
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Spending time with estranged grandparent
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Sonelly · 15/07/2023 18:21
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