MIL is main carer for FIL who has dementia. Things increasingly not easy at home, but so far they've been managing with a little bit of bought in care and some regular respite weeks in a care home for FIL. MIL finding the situation increasingly difficult though, and things are pretty tense.
Last night, FIL started moving things around in the house in the early hours, and then tried to go out into the street. MIL had to physically restrain him (with difficulty) and is of course very shaken by the experience. Is this 'it' now in terms of home care? If MIL would consider live-in or much higher levels of home care, would this be workable? Or is an incident like this a sign that someone is no longer safe at home regardless? I realise that this has to be about MIL's feelings, but I'd be grateful for views on whether home care is a scenario that's even worth considering as one of the options?
Elderly parents
Is a care home inevitable now?
tobyj · 15/03/2024 23:12
HeddaGarbled · 16/03/2024 00:22
Yeah, speaking from experience, once they start the night wandering, she’ll never have a decent night’s sleep again, and will become increasingly worn down, until he moves into a secure care home.
Mum5net · 16/03/2024 00:26
Sometimes you are as well going straight to the solution rather than ‘dangling’ to see if things improve.
@Mossstitch has good points and get an AirTag on FiL coat etc if you think he is a genuine flight risk.
I’d definitely put out feelers for care homes now - start asking where is good and actually visiting- even if you don’t need them for a few months, it’s good to know ones that you feel he might prefer and would work for MiL.
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