Please can someone share practical advice about how to deal with this.
My elderly mother is psychologically abusing my dad. They are in their 80s. She rants at him for hours on end, sends him abusive messages, hides things, tears up important documents, yells at him. I could go on.
I tried to speak to her Dr but they said they can only look at doing an assessment or review of my mum if she agrees.
With dementia can a person be in control of their behaviour? My mum rants vile abuse at my dad then goes off to church, acts all lovely, then returns and kicks off again. When she is screaming at him he believes she has control and is somewhat enjoying it. Is this really a part of dementia?
She has always been a difficult character. I’ve been in therapy for almost a year now as a result of childhood neglect (I’m a grown adult in my forties).
Should I go back to the GP or is this a matter for adult social care? I suppose I am looking for guidance about what might happen if I report concerns.
I have suggested to my dad that he takes himself off for a while (hotel, bit of respite) in the hope that his absence might shock her into stopping but I don’t know if this could make things a lot worse in the long run.
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kitz90 · 13/03/2024 16:41
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