My mum has dementia, she lives in a care home. I visit weekly. She's been in her current home since august and was three years in her previous home, she had to leave because she started to wander out and get lost, they couldn't keep her in and so I moved her to a specialist (locked) dementia home.
I visited yesterday and she was complaining about a mark on her shoe. I asked her to give me the shoe so she took it off and handed it to me. It smelled dreadful and I commented that it was a bit whiff and then looked down at her feet. I was horrified to see that her toenails were like claws, she clearly had fungal nail disease and they had not been cared for or cut in months.
Her bill clearly shows chiropodist charges in February and November, but the state of her nails looks to me like they've been untreated for months. I tried to cut the nails myself but it was impossible without causing her pain.
I went down to see the manager and the clinical lead. The clinical lead (a nurse) looked at the pictures I'd taken of mum's feet and said that has not happened overnight, that's months of disease.
They've promised a doctors visit next week and a chiropodist visit, but it suggests to me that this is symptomatic of a deeper neglect. In my situation what would others do? I'm going to write and complain. It's self funded and costs £1470 a week...
Elderly parents
Care home neglect?
Mxflamingnoravera · 11/03/2023 08:40
orangetriangle · 23/03/2023 21:38
agree these all singing all dancing homes are often not worth the paper they are written on and the reason some have an outstanding offsted is they refuse to take on patience with more challenging symptoms in the latter stages of dementia even if you are able to pay I dont know if they think well this one wont last long we wont get much money out of this one
Perhaps I'm being harsh but we had one refuse mum and show very little compassion and claim they had never seen anyone like her before !!
The home she eventually went to may have been a bit tatty round the edges nothing fased them though and they cared for mum right to the very end Guess what there were lots of people just like mum there. The original all singing all dancing care home tried to make out she had issues grrrr
MereDintofPandiculation · 24/03/2023 09:56
She has gone from a size 12/14 to size 20 since she's been in care (3.5 years) mostly (I think) because she just eats whatever is offered and much of it seems to be hi carb. The more usual problem is weight loss, so food seems to be enriched where possible. They should have been weighing her regularly and adjusting diet accordingly
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Mxflamingnoravera · 29/03/2023 06:58
Interesting, the chiropdy thing seems to be a theme, being charged but not happening. We really do need a complete rethink of dementia care, people with dementia need to live meaningful lives and have activities that are real instead of being put in front of the Tv with some colouring sheets.
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