My father was violent, very violent
He had no patience,, even small misbehavours his father was violent to him so it was following that pattern
My mither stood by and watched
I became angry and rebellious
I self harmed - cutting, overdose, even broke my own wrist
I screwed up all my gcses and left school at 16
They let me go out with a 22 year old when I was 15
They gave up on me
Luckily I made it through
But i had several violent relationships until I found meditation, therapy, and then university as mature student etc
What a miracle
Now I parent my children properly
How do I forgive them? It gets harder as my kids get older and I see the heartbreak of childhood.
I can't ask people in realife. I'm ashamed of my childhood and my parents.
Elderly parents
How do I forgive my parents for my childhood?
mammatilly · 08/03/2023 19:57
mammatilly · 08/03/2023 19:57
My father was violent, very violent
He had no patience,, even small misbehavours his father was violent to him so it was following that pattern
My mither stood by and watched
I became angry and rebellious
I self harmed - cutting, overdose, even broke my own wrist
I screwed up all my gcses and left school at 16
They let me go out with a 22 year old when I was 15
They gave up on me
Luckily I made it through
But i had several violent relationships until I found meditation, therapy, and then university as mature student etc
What a miracle
Now I parent my children properly
How do I forgive them? It gets harder as my kids get older and I see the heartbreak of childhood.
I can't ask people in realife. I'm ashamed of my childhood and my parents.
Matlab · 08/03/2023 21:27
Did your dad actually abuse you, or was it a case of you harbouring resentment as to the person you parents made you into, and the path they sent you down?
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