What constitutes "unreasonable behaviour" in divorce?

[DoingItForMyself]

Does it have to be documented, big things or can you cite insults and incidents of selfishness etc? I don't want to have to wait 2 years to get it done, but with a background of low-level EA I don't have anything specific to hang it on.

Would it be easier for one of us to confess to a non-existent affair? Would an emotional affair suffice as I could probably muster one of those if I tried hard enough!

[damnstatistics]

Dear Mumsnetters - filling in Form 8... Thinking about unreasonable behaviour, and I would very much welcome any feedback on the following... I'm taking to heart the previous comments about informing DH in advance about the reasons I put down, to try to make it less of a shock when the papers are served...

Respondent constantly picked fights over trivial matters, insulting and belittling me, making me feel extremely anxious and exhausted

Respondent ruined family outings with his irritation, aggressive driving, and relentlessly negative comments and attitude, so that for several years I have had no companionship and intimacy at home.

Despite repeated requests from me, respondent refused to stop smoking in the house, even when the children were babies and when I had cancer, which made me feel he did not care for our family's wellbeing.

All love and affection has disappeared, which upsets me greatly.

[damnstatistics]

If anyone can give me some feedback on the reasons I have suggested I would be really grateful - think H might contest it.

[trainwreck]

Can anyone help in,do l need a solicitor as my ex is divorcing me under unreasonable behaviour,when it was him who cheated,on me and l just walked out,we have a house together,no kids,can't afford a solicitor,but his letter from his says that if l just sign it,then l don't have to pay any cost,but l don't like the fact that he has put that its unreasonable behaviour,when all l did was walk out,l did try to get him to mediation,but he wasn't willing does that help my case,or that l have prove that he has admitted to affair

[LoveAboveAll]

Hi sorry to trouble - your post was a while ago. What GROUNDS then were used in that divorce application please? as it sounds like it was soft and kind? thank you

[Porcupine123]

Hello everyone!
This is my first post on mumsnet. I read this thread extensively, as I suddenly found myself facing a similar situation. We have been married for under 5 years, out of which I trying to save us for the last 3. His vile temper, narcissistic personality, and mood swings have led me to illness. During last two years we bought a ruined house which I worked on almost entirely by myself (I bet my head he would deny that). Funnily enough, he demanded divorce but agreed that I can do it (he's too lazy). I have read the whole thread which was invaluable but I would be really grateful if someone who's been through this could tell me if my examples will be enough for the judge. I cannot write the whole truth, because I need to keep him pleased. He is in total denial about his temper, so I cannot write anything remotely aggravating. This is the bare minimum I came up with that he cannot deny. I admit I hijacked some of your problems - as someone rightly mentioned I married a pattern of behaviour :(

1. Towards the end of the marriage the Respondent has been showing no interest in my wishes or opinions, and on several occasions admitted he has no respect for me, claiming I do not deserve it, which made me feel rejected and belittled.
   
2. The Respondent has repeatedly refused to communicate on any meaningful level regarding problems in our marriage in the last two years. For example, the Respondent has refused my requests to attend counselling in attempt to save our marriage.
   
3. The Respondent has encouraged me to take up medical studies and subsequently refused any support, demanding I should terminate the course under threat of ceasing all communication with me. It made me feel anxious and insecure about my future.
   
4. In the last year of our marriage the Respondent became very secretive, which made me feel isolated and undermined my trust. For example, the Respondent has suddenly denied me any access to his emails, bank account, and phone.
   
5. As a result of the Respondent’s unreasonable behaviour, I permanently vacated our former matrimonial home on the 5th day of November 2016 since when the Respondent and I have lived entirely separate and apart.