My DH was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia last year. He also had a mild stroke three months ago, for which he was in hospital for a short while before coming home. As a result of both these things, he's developed significant urinary incontinence issues, and occasional faecal incontinence as well. He wears pads etc to manage this, but the bed is wet most mornings and he has "accidents" of both types on the floor from time to time - mostly in the bathroom, when he doesn't quite get to the toilet in time.
Whilst he's generally OK at home with me as his carer, and I manage in my own way, we have a long standing booking to go to a UK holiday cottage this summer. I'm considering cancelling as I can't see how this situation can be managed whilst away from home: I'll be constantly worried about him making a mess on someone else's floors/furniture/bedding. This will be no holiday for me! (Sorry if that sounds selfish).
We will have to take a car load of protective sheets, covers etc and our own bed linen, cleaning materials, completely re-make the bed he will be sleeping on when we arrive/leave, ensure we have a week's worth supply of pads/black bags for disposal purposes etc. I can manage all of this at home, but trying to do it in a strange house which belongs to someone else, keep everything clean and sanitary etc is giving me nightmares.
Any and all advice would be most welcome. I feel awful reading this back, but WWYD? Thank you.
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Dementia, incontinence and going on holiday!
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Goneforaride · 01/02/2024 08:14
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