my mum has been diagnosed with both vascular & alzheimers. I’m her nearest child, my sibling lives 5hrs away. She used to live 45 mins from me but we’ve moved her to an assisted living place 10 mins from me. I’m aware moving her wasn’t ideal however she had no support where she was, was struggling to cope in her house and we felt it was the best option. She’s said she has no regrets.
anyway, I’m really struggling, mainly with the changes in her, the aggressiveness towards me and the confusion. . It’s bloody hard as you all know.
A few days ago we were sorting through her handbag together. I found a stash of notes, she said she didn’t know she had them. We put them in 2 purses she carries round, all good. A couple of days later she messaged me asking for her money that I had taken., id taken nothing. We went back and forth in text with me asking if she’d looked in the purses, in her handbag, had she moved it somewhere else.
her replies were confused and went from the purses weren’t in her bag, the money wasn’t in the purses and I had taken it the other day.
I drive round but whilst I was on my way she text saying she’d found it in the purses that were in her bag and that she hadn’t looked in the bag before!
she accused me of taking her money and as far as I can make out hadn’t even looked.
Im aware this can be a thing with dementia however I’m really worried that if she starts this regularly then where is it going to end and do I need to protect myself or how do I protect myself?
I also have full POA so I have access to everything!
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Early stages - accused of taking money
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Brendabigbaps · 29/01/2024 13:47
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