Hi everyone,
I feel like a fraud coming on Mumsnet but hope you can help with advice as its usually women who have the caring role in life.
My wife was diagnosed with Alzheimers 5 years ago and it has been an awful experience watching the person I married 50 years ago fade away slowly.
This should be easy for me because in the last15 years I have help my wife look after my mum who had dementia and had to come and live with us and then my sister in law who was Downs who also developed dementia. Over this period I had to cut down working hours to help look after both.
After my sister in law died I began to see signs of memory issues in my wife which have progressed to the point where she is entering the fourth and final stage of the disease.
I hope you don't think this is a hard luck story but I find dealing with the changes in behaviour such as uncontrollable anxiety and repetitively asking the same questions difficult to cope with and wondered if anyone out there has any suggestions for coping with this. The GPs are not interest and there answer to this sort of issue is sedation which I have used occasionally but as condition has got worse there only suggestion the GPs appears to be capable of making is more sedation and a wife who is out for the count most of the day. This I will not do as it is not fair to my wife, a point which a lot of the medical profession seem to have difficulty in grasping.
Any advice gratefully accepted! Thanks a a nearly worn out carer!
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Nearly worn out carer
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Tonyh · 06/01/2024 09:40
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