My DH is a stroke victim who developed vascular dementia. He is now at a fairly advanced stage (although only diagnosed for a year or so). He needs help toileting, dressing, eating, washing etc. All of this is fine.
The problem comes at night when he babbles incoherently for literally hours on end. In the past three days and nights I've had roughly two hours of sleep per night.
Anyone got any ideas? However oddball, I'll try it. I'm chuffing desperate and how he survived last night is thanks entirely to (a) my dog and (b) talking books playing loudly enough to drown him out.
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Help, suggestions - anyone?
FlipFlops4Me · 26/12/2023 11:27
HappyHamsters · 26/12/2023 12:20
Poor man, contact his gp or dementia nurse for advice, he can't help it and it's worse for him and if this bothers you so much now how will you cope in the future. Maybe he has an infection, in pain or distress.
Carpediem15 · 26/12/2023 12:57
Excuse me but have you been through this with your partner or family member?
HappyHamsters · 26/12/2023 12:20
Poor man, contact his gp or dementia nurse for advice, he can't help it and it's worse for him and if this bothers you so much now how will you cope in the future. Maybe he has an infection, in pain or distress.
HappyHamsters · 26/12/2023 14:09
Yes I have and also worked in a professional capacity for 30 years
Carpediem15 · 26/12/2023 12:57
Excuse me but have you been through this with your partner or family member?
HappyHamsters · 26/12/2023 12:20
Poor man, contact his gp or dementia nurse for advice, he can't help it and it's worse for him and if this bothers you so much now how will you cope in the future. Maybe he has an infection, in pain or distress.
PermanentTemporary · 26/12/2023 14:40
I think talk to the GP - they may come up with something. Maybe you could suggest a referral to the older adults mental health team, if his sleep is deteriorating?
If his needs at night are increasing, you might have to look at greater levels of care perhaps.
FlipFlops4Me · 26/12/2023 14:32
Yeah he gets Attendance Allowance but I'll have to re-apply for him as we only get the lower rate (applied before night problems began).
I'll definitely see I can get help from the Council. Problem is,my DH really likes the current respite worker and there's no guarantee he'd like anyone else.
I think I need to speak to the Adult care team and find out what we, I or he are eligible for because I don't have a clue. This sort of crept up on us and all of a sudden I'm at the stage where I have to pay a dogwalker because I can't get out to walk the poor things!
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