Hi,
I wondered if I could ask advice about my mum who has dementia?
Since May she has been continuously delirious, but really happy.
She mostly sees lovely children in the garden who are not there, and sometimes they are in the house. She tells me that she meets lots of lovely men around the house, but it's clear that they are all my Dad. Sometimes people hand her tortoises while I am on the phone. When she watches tv sometimes she thinks she has actually been to the place on the tv.
She can hardly walk and can't sit down or go to the toilet with out help and is very very far on with it. But so far she has always been happy, with a strong voice on the phone.
But about four days ago something changed suddenly and she became terrified and was pleading with me to come and help. She said she was in a field and there were 5 doors and then she just started sobbing in utter despair. I phoned once a day for four day and she's been either in full-on terror each time or utterly exhausted from the terror.
Her voice is not the same as normal either and one night she was slurring her words. Tonight she just sounded very weark and so quiet that it was a bit like when she came out of intensive care two years ago from having pneumonia.
My Dad couldn't use the phone because he had his hands full with my Mum, so rang the doctor, and then an ambulance when the doctor didn't answer. The ambulance service sent a nurse the next day who looked her over and found nothing they could help with. UTI test was negative.
My Dad has a double appointment with the GP this coming Wednesday but my mum sounds so exhausted and terrified and frail, and I wonder if we should or could do something sooner.
I wondered if anybody might know what we could do? I did wonder if it was a stroke but I reckon the nurse would have spotted that.
There is no formal dementia diagnosis.
Thanks!
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
DM having terrors suddenly
KeepingTrying · 11/11/2023 20:32
KeepingTrying · 13/11/2023 20:43
Thank you for the advice. The GP appointment is on Wednesday so we will find out then. DF not keen to go earlier.
cathyandclaire · 13/11/2023 09:01
Definitely see the GP for a formal diagnosis. My cousin had a form of dementia ( Lewy body) which gave him visual hallucinations and Parkinson's symptoms too.
As she has got acutely more confused she may have delerium caused by a UTI or chest infection which needs treatment.
KeepingTrying · 15/11/2023 21:43
Just a quick thank you for all your advice. My DF did a good job at the GP appt today and the cavalry is now on the way. Social services coming to arrange help, and also the memory clinic to assess DM so that appropriate drug treatment can provided. Hopefully that will help things very soon.
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