Just wondering whether anyone else has experienced similar.
A few years before my DM (Alzheimer’s) was bad enough to need a care home, a DSis and young niece came from the US to stay for Christmas. They spent the first couple of nights with DM - I was then going to pick them all up (60 miles each way) to come to us on Christmas Eve.
A few hours before I set off, DSis phoned to say DM was very sorry, but she really thought she’d rather stay at home, in relative peace and quiet.
I don’t mind admitting that I was partly relieved, since even before dementia DM wasn’t always the easiest person, so quick to take offence at the tiniest thing.
So I said OK, if that’s what she wants - took her presents and some specially nice food and brought DSis and niece back here.
Later that evening, when everybody else was out, DM phoned, absolutely furious. What was she doing all on her own on Christmas Eve? I was a terrible daughter, she was cutting me out of her will, etc.
Of course I tried to tell her that of course! she’d been invited - she hadn’t wanted to come! Useless, she simply couldn’t remember anything about it.
If she’d changed her mind, I’d come and pick her up now!
No, she didn’t want that either! Banged the phone down, furious.
I honestly don’t know when I’ve been so upset - I was in tears for ages.
Dreading what was coming, I phoned her on Christmas Day anyway. And of course (as I should perhaps have expected) she’d forgotten the whole thing completely, was quite happy.
The relief was colossal!
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Dementia and upsets at Christmas
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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 23/10/2023 10:23
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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/11/2023 09:16
Oh no, but thanks anyway, @SiouxsieSiouxStiletto . I was just wondering whether anyone else had experienced similar.
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