Should I chat to my aunt about my suspicions in my mother?

[Scotblue]

Over the past year I noticed a lot of things about my mother. I have a long list of observations from her but there's no typical forgetfulness.
There's stuff that's happening that's not right.
For example this morning I found she washed clothes that she washed yesterday and she only had about 6 tshirts in the washing machine. It wasn't a full load and it was on a long wash with a hight temperature too. This indicates that she doesn't fully understand the cost of living and the energy crisis.
I mean like, you just don't put on a long wash with only a few times in the drum and those items were already washed yesterday. There are a lot of these kind things happening. I have a lot more other observations too but I could write a book.

She gets angry and snarky easily even over the most slightest of things.
She confuses some of my clothes as hers even though we are different sizes.

I am concerned that maybe dementia is happening.
I chatted to our GP last summer but I am still in the same place as to where I was last year. There's no diagnosis to rule it in or out and there's no progression and she's not in any way further down the rabbit hole with any progression for a doctor to step in and investigate this further.

I wonder if I should talk to my aunt about my observations and suspicions of dementia in my mother. She would be a sister to my mother.
One of my mothers symptoms is an anger where she blows up easily. The last thing that I will want is for my aunt to gossip it about the family and for my mother to hear it back from one of her siblings that I think she has dementia brewing.

I am on my own. All my siblings live abroad.
Two of my siblings are fusing to hear me and they think its normal regular aging in her.
One sibling has at least acknowledged something happening in her.

All of what I observed is vague and subtle from my mother.
Still there's stuff not quite right.

How long does it take others to get a diagnosis?

[PritiPatelsMaker]

I chatted to our GP last summer but I am still in the same place as to where I was last year. There's no diagnosis to rule it in or out and there's no progression and she's not in any way further down the rabbit hole with any progression for a doctor to step in and investigate this further.

Have you got POA? Are you able to chase up what's happening with the GP?

As a PP you might be able to get her to the GP for a Check Up, a medication review or a Well Woman check might work too.

[Viviennemary]

There are quite a few articles on Dementia symptoms online. I don't think what you have described are typical symptoms. Repesting the same story within a short dpace of time, asking the same questions multiple times, getting very mixed up with dates and times are more common. However, if you are worried get her checked by her GP.


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[Nothappyunlessyourecomplaining]

She needs blood tests first. There are many, easily treatable, conditions that can cause dementia type symptoms. She would of course need to consent to having a discussion with the GP so blood tests can be ordered, usually an ECG is needed too. Then, if bloods are all normal it would be a referral to the memory clinic for assessment.

You need to talk to your mum and encourage her to attend a ‘check up’ at the very least. You’d then need to speak to a GP about her before she attends so they know of you suspicions and can suggest they do some bloods for a health check, they can then add the additional ones on that the memory clinic need before referral.