Hi, I have absolutely no idea if I am posting in the right group, but it seems like a good place to start.
I'll try and keep this in a nutshell: basically my mum is undergoing tests and appointments for a currently undiagnosed neurological condition.
My mum is 76. Over the last 1 to 2 years her mobility has become really bad, her confusion has increased, her balance and spatial awareness are terrible etc. She is now not able to drive either.
When my mum was in her early 70s, she seemed like she was in her 60s, full of life and vivacious, and now she just seems like a really really old lady that's not able to do much other than sit in her chair… I am desperately trying to get answers, but it's a slow, slow process!
I live in the next road to my mum and she has become reliant on me for most stuff.
She has carers, provided by the local council, who do all of her personal care, get her up and ready for the day, get her ready for bed, prepare her meals and stuff.
But I do everything else: all of her life admin, phone calls, making arrangements, all of her shopping, many many appointments - it might not sound like much, but on top of two jobs, two kids, and my own life to run, it's a lot!
It literally feels like there's something every day, and certainly an appointment for something or other probably fortnightly. She has some other issues currently going on, she recently had an operation on her foot which has required multiple appointments, she has also needed some quite extensive dental work which has also required multiple appointments.
I was wondering if it is possible to become her "carer" in some official capacity, (a) seeing as she already has carers that are provided by the council, and (b) considering that she doesn't have a diagnosis of anything just yet.
I know there is a payment/money element to this, but that's not what I'm interested in.
The reason I need to be recognised as a carer is that one of my jobs is working in a school, and we are not meant to have days off in term time. We are allowed the odd day off, here and there, if it's for a dependent (which would currently be my children) but my mum isn't officially one of my dependants, even though, realistically, she is. Obviously I do try and arrange appointments around my school job, but this isn't always possible.
She already has multiple appointments coming up this year, where it's likely that I will need odd days off work here and there, and I think they will probably only be accommodating in this if I can prove a bit more literally that my mum is one of my dependents.
Does something like this even exist? All of this dealing with the council and the social workers is very new to me.
I am also currently in the process of trying to get her a blue badge but the social worker wasn't helpful about that, so probably not worth asking her about how to get carer status.
Many thanks if anyone can help.
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Is it possible to become an "official carer", and how do I do it?
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iwishiwasonacruise · 24/01/2023 09:20
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