New dad here . All my life i have loved kids , always wanted them , always been maternal and playful with other peoples kids . Ive just had a little girl of my own and she is 17 days old . I was over joyed when she was born, i even cried tears in the delivery room. However now i feel the total opposite of how i expected i would feel. I was expecting the be extremely loving and patient and hands on , but instead ive just felt a serious bout of depression and regret , as horrible and painful as that is to say.
Im finding it all so hard :( , the sleepless nights , the screaming , the random bouts of crying and her only settling with her mother . I find myself losing my temper and feeling anger when she cries , and also feeling guilt that i dont want to hold my baby through fear of her crying and only my partner being able to make her stop. I know post natal depression can be a thing with fathers too but i just want to hear honest accounts from other dads so i dont feel like such a bad person. So far all ive had off other new dads is that their babies are angels and never cry and how easy it is etc where as i just feel sadness and resent towards it all . I know it will change when shes more attentive and we can play together and go on days out but right now i just feel hopeless
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Lukev21 · 27/08/2022 18:02
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