What am I supposed to do?

[blvdbrokendreams]

My husband and me have both come down with a cough. And hes got a bit of a temperature so we've arranged to get two tests done tomorrow.. the problem is we have a 3 month old baby and we are running very low on formula. I got paid today so the plan was to nip to asda or tesco like we usually do on payday and top up. Obviously we may not have covid but we are trying to follow the guidance. We have no immediate family in the area and no friends who drive or live this way. No delivery slots at any of the supermarkets. Looked on deliveroo and ubereats and for starters the delivery fee is at least 4 pound, I know its not a lot but when your husband is furloughed again and im on maternity every penny counts but also the milk is an extra four pound. Its 8 pound for cow and gate in the supermarket, 12 pound on the deliveroo supermarkets. Im not here to complain and im not here to start a debate. I just dont know what to do. Me and my husband have food in. But my little girl has hardly any. Please don't slate me for running low on milk. Were leaving payday to payday as it is.

[Omeara]

I’m sure someone from the shop would have dropped it on your doorstep if you really live 10 seconds away.

I totally understand you couldn’t let your baby starve but you really didn’t do much to come up with an alternative solution.

[Bollss]

@WoodYewBee

if you are struggling to this point why did you take on a dog to add to the expense?

Presumably they got the dog before furlough / mat leave. Stop judging.

[blvdbrokendreams]

DishRanAwayWithTheSpoon the day just got away from us.
We always go shopping in the evening. Its done. I cant change it. Im sorry but I dont need slating.

[grassisjeweled]

Seriously, how as a society did we become so indesicive?

Go and get your baby formula ffs

[DishRanAwayWithTheSpoon]

The store workers? Anyone who came into the store after OP? Op had no idea that the store was going to be empty, could easily have been someone there. Someone could die, or end up in hospital or end up with longterm health problems.

Im not a rabid covid we must all hide for the next year people. But if you have covid symptoms its really not fair to go out and potentially spread it. Its reasonably likely that with a cough and a temperature you have covid, test or not, and so Op knew full well going out she risks giving someone covid who is at risk.

Its not 'not ideal' its completely irresponsible. Its done now but i dont want to send the message to others that this okay in the future. You left it till 8 oclock at night to ask for help, this left you with no option. What were you doing in the hours leading up to this? What was your DH doing?

[Jrobhatch29]

I cant believe the responses either. I have a 6 month old and the stress of a screaming, hungry baby would be awful for the baby and the OP. Babies won't just wait to be fed until somebody has some free time to help. I would have done the same thing OP

[Ginnymweasley]

I honestly can't believe some people think the op should have just gone without milk for her baby. Not every area has people that would be willing to help others out at the drop of a hat. The op is sick with a baby and has had an unexpected drop in income. I imagine she is stressed enough without people telling her shes killing people or that she should have predicted all this months ago and stocked up etc.

[bluejelly]

Hope you feel better soon OP.

[BexR]

God. People now doing forensic accounting on OPs circumstances.

Pleased you got sorted OP.

[blvdbrokendreams]

Thank you for all the kind comments.

[cheeseychovolate]

You had no other option but to go and get your baby some milk, I've followed the rules all along but if I were in your situation I would have done the same.

[WankPuffins]

@blvdbrokendreams don’t feel you have to defend yourself to people. Circumstances change all the time.

I think some posters on here would like us all to live in a skip, have no children or pets ever just incase circumstances change. They are the same people who would probably ask someone feeling DV why they had children with them.

I hope you both feel better soon x

[SaltyAF]

I would definitely have done the same in those circumstances. Covid has resulted in a massive compassion vacuum.

[HalfTermHalfTerm]

hey op @blvdbrokendreams**

what dog do you have?

if you are struggling to this point why did you take on a dog to add to the expense?

What was the point of asking what breed the dog was if you only wanted to make that unhelpful comment?

[blvdbrokendreams]

Because we took him in in July. When my husband was working. When I didnt know we were going to be lockdown again? I lost my dog in June of this year. We were doing absolutely fine on maternity and my husbands wage. Then he got furloughed again. Didnt actually see that coming. I dont see what my dog has to do with this situation.

[Motnight]

This is the reality of COVID. Some people have no choice but to break the rules. Op hope all is ok with you.

[StealthPolarBear]

I'm guessing that was before her husband was furloughed

[WoodYewBee]

if you are struggling to this point why did you take on a dog to add to the expense?

[blvdbrokendreams]

Took him in from our inlaws when they moved to a smaller house. Same breed as our last dog funnily enough

[blvdbrokendreams]

@WoodYewBee a very stubborn staff cross border collie

[blvdbrokendreams]

Unfortunately by the time I posted and realised we both had been coughing it was pushing 8 o clock at night. And people did offer to help but not till today. In laws have messaged us and are gonna send us a box of 6 of milk so were always ahead now so if it does happen again we should be 2 weeks or so ahead. It happens. I did the best I could in the circumstances. I wouldn't just bob out for a chocolate bar but she is the most important in this scenario

[WoodYewBee]

hey op @blvdbrokendreams

what dog do you have?

[StealthPolarBear]

Glad you're sorted. Another one saying if I saw this sort of thing on a local site I'd have happily done it, no questions or judgement. Assuming you're not on with the same sob story every fortnight this is the sort of situation we could all imagine ourselves in.

[Vargas]

But what about other people’s daughters that your actions could kill. Are they not important?

Oh FFS, how ridiculous.

[WoodYewBee]

i think we are all missing the point of this thread!!

op has repeatedly said ...they are down on income....4 pound 4 pound 4pound