How often do you have visitors? (distanced)

[starrysimon]

I haven’t had any personally. I’ve had family members drop shopping on the doorstep but they drive off straight away. I haven’t even seen my own DD from a distance as she’s isolated with my DM 5 mins away, she was at risk here and was the most sensible decision. She’s only 4 so it would upset her not being able to see me. Due to this is infuriating me seeing my neighbour get the same visitors every single day. They do try to distance but not very well as they stand directly in front of my front door to speak (open driveways). This means if I needed to go out I’d have to wait until they leave or look like a tit asking them to move from an open window or such.

They’re there for an hour most days and I have to sit and endure their conversations as have had the windows open with the weather being so hot. These people drive here as well and is hardly an essential trip as they don’t drop things off for them or anything.

AIBU to think they don’t need to see their friends every single day (same age couples as neighbours so more than likely not all family if any). Phone calls and FaceTime should suffice. Is anyone else having ‘distanced’ visitors often?

[BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou]

Nobody. Not even distanced.

Would love to see my DD but that would be non essential travel.

FaceTime or equivalent with DD every few days and Zoom regularly with a group of friends I’d usually see every week.

The house a few doors away has regular visitors, cuddling grandchildren, teen and friends in garden and going out etc.

You can’t fix stupid unfortunately.

[Judystilldreamsofhorses]

MIL dropped off some rhubarb from her garden on Tuesday. She text to say she was here, left it on the doorstep, then stood in the middle of the road for a chat!

We’ve been dropping treats for next door’s little boy (sweets, comics) but all conducted via text/notes, and they left some Easter eggs in our garden earlier today. I get Grazia magazine weekly on subscription, which I then put through the door of our neighbour on the other side - she and I have long text conversations in the evenings, and hope to progress to wine in our gardens if it ever warms up.

[Catchme91]

I kill

[ifonly4]

We haven't had any visitors at our door. We have spoken to others though:

Either across the road, it's a quiet cul-de-sac.

I've dropped food off at my Mum's once a week and we've had 5 minute chat at least 6m apart.

We went on a bike ride earlier and dropped easter eggs (off on my brother-in-law's doorstep for his kids). He happened to be working at the side of the house so said a quick hello and the children waved from a closed window.

[Orangesox]

We dropped off eggs at my Dad’s whilst walking past their house on the way back from the farm shop. We left the eggs on their door step, they spoke to us briefly from their first floor balcony.

They live less than 200m from us as do a number of our friends and that’s the first time we’ve seen anyone face to face for more than a few seconds in passing whilst out walking since all social distancing came in. We keep in touch with social media and on the phone, we all know that we have to just get on with it and keep in touch this way if we all want the best chance of survival.

[StrangerDaysAhoy]

@starrysimon OP you are too nice. TELL THEM.

Or:

Put a sign up - 'pregnant lady resting - please respect property boundary & social distancing and keep noise down, thank you'

Park a car there

Leave a wheelbarrow and your bins there

Put on loud rap music whenever they do it

Leave a bowl of fish guts on your doorstep

[40somethingJBJ]

I’ve been adding bits of shopping to my orders for a friend who lives around the corner, and when she collects, during her daily exercise, she stands at the end of my drive and we have a chat for half an hour or so once a week. Yesterday, my neighbour came out to her bin whilst we were chatting and she joined in the conversation. We were all at least 4-5 metres away, so no risk, and it was lovely to have a bit of interaction. Other than that, I’ve had a chat with the bloke over the road whilst we were both out doing bits on our caravans, and a chat with the postman from a distance a couple of times, but no visitors as such.

[justilou1]

Start coughing and gagging a lot every time this happens (beside open windows of course) and I suspect that this problem will resolve itself fairly quickly....

[InTheShadowOfTheMushroomCloud]

I have not spoken to anyone since lock down face to face apart from DH and immediate neighbours.
I haven't been in the car since lockdown.
DH is a keyworker and has been doing the little shopping we need.

[emmathedilemma]

I don't family nearby and friends don't tend to come round all that often, we'd do stuff together or go out, so that's all just being done on zoom. I've talked to neighbours outside and bumped into someone I know while out for a walk yesterday so it was nice to chat to a real human for a bit (from a distance!).

[vroc81]

No one but I do go and stand outside the 85 year old neighbours house every day to check she is ok (but for about five minutes) drop off prescriptions or shopping so I could be an annoying person... Oh and I suppose work colleagues have collected office keys and we’ve shouted hello down the drive - I don’t really count that as visitors though...

[CoronaIsComing]

In your case though I’d knock on the window and move them on every single time.

[CoronaIsComing]

One, my sister dropped off an Easter egg for DS on their daily walk and we opened the front door and said hello while she stood on our own drive about 5m away for a few mins. Our across the road neighbours who are in their 70s are having daily visits from family who all go into the house and today they’ve had 3 lots so far. The final set did see me glare at them 😡 they’re not helping with shopping either as the neighbours also have a daily walk to the local shop.

[pollysproggle]

My eldest sons dad has been by twice with his little brother to seen him. We stand at door or window and they stand on the street. I know children are allowed to go from different parents houses but I've decided it's best not to do that for now so the visits are nice.
My mum and sister have been by together twice dropping off shopping, it's mainly tons of fruit & veg for me (30 weeks) and the children.

[starrysimon]

It’s quite performance like and almost narcissistic to have loud conversations directly in front of other people’s open windows/outside front doors. I know I certainly wouldn’t want everyone hearing what I’m talking about if it’s a private conversation. They clearly don’t care about other people hearing what they say and have even had the cheek to bitch about other neighbours having visitors on occasion Glad to hear I’m not the only one sacrificing seeing loved ones and being selfless. Due a baby in 2 weeks (probs why I’m so angered by this haha). If she’s asleep in the living room whilst I’ve got the windows open and the neighbours are having loud chats outside then I will be telling them to be quiet. We have large driveways so thought we’d have decent privacy being so set back from the road. I was wrong! Unfortunately there’s no cars in them at the moment so can’t block people from using them to ‘social distance’

[AmIAStone]

*with

[AmIAStone]

Very sorry you are not either your DD, that must be very hard. I would ask the visitors to not stand on your land/by your open window as they are putting you at risk being within 2m

[LochJessMonster]

None. Noones dropped anything off either. Only person coming to my house is the postman.

[Davespecifico]

None, like you.

[Scruffyoak]

None

[justasking111]

Two adult sons who root through the garage for pressure washers, dads tools to occupy their days. That is it.

Dropping off eggs later for grand kids we all live cheek by jowl in the same area here.

I would be annoyed by those visitors OP

[LouLouLoo]

We’ve had none but I do drop shopping over to my elderly parents and stay (outside) and have a chat with them for 20 mins or so when I do. Im not encroaching in anyone else’s space when I do.

[Theukisgreatt]

None. Haven't been able to give my sister her birthday presents even though she only lives 15 mins away. Not unnecessary journeys.

[daisypond]

Never. Haven’t seen my parents since early February.

[PorpentinaScamander]

My mum dropped some shopping off a few days ago and we chatted from a safe distance for a few mins. Likewise when my friend dropped some stuff round. Other than that we haven't had any.