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4DPO today - anyone joining the 2ww??

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ElsaTam · 05/11/2019 22:54

Hello! I am 4dpo and already starting to look for preggo signs.. i know i know!..
This cycle I had again tender breasts during/after ovulation, but today at 4dpo I noticed that they are not that “full” anymore (I confess it left me a bit worried!).
Okp positive on 31st Oct and ovulation on 1st Nov. Temperature raised on 2nd Nov and kept high (had a small drop but today even higher than before). All good (I think??) but the breasts don’t seem tender anymore (Although progesterone levels seems good). It is the first month I am checking temperature. We are trying to conceive since July/August. September had a chemical pregnancy.
Whomever is out there in the same boat - please share your symptoms! Also, if anyone had experience with losing breast symptoms after ovulation.. please share your experience! Thanks!

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blueberry2105 · 12/08/2022 13:20

Thank you I only realised after I posted how old it was lol so I tried to to delete it but I didn't know how haha. So glad you have your little one congratulations ♥️ xx

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ElsaTam · 12/08/2022 13:17

@blueberry2105 this post is really old, sorry to say.. it’s interesting, I got the message and had to smile. those were HARD months!!! Too many chemicals and missed miscarriage along the way. But on June 2020 we finally managed to do IVF and all went well. Thanks GOD my baby is here with me, in his stroller and today he turns 1y4m!
Wishing you lots of luck and that your little one sticks! Crossing fingers for you! ❤️ That waiting is insane so hang on!!!!

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blueberry2105 · 12/08/2022 10:51

I'm 4dpo today already had lots of cm and tender breasts I know it's too early for preg symptoms but it's also not usual for me so good luck to everyone ♥️ hope loads of bfps happen in this thread 🙈👶🏼

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rhirhibumblebee · 15/12/2019 10:12

@ElsaTam It's still disappointing whatever the stage 💙. Yes same as you, the Consultant brushed off my worry that this happened twice in a row. Xx

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ElsaTam · 15/12/2019 09:36

@rhirhibumblebee thank you my dear! Yes, all in the same boat! Of course a m/c is way worse.. because of the waiting etc. So in a way it's better it's chemical. I hope you are alright as well ❤️
Don't your doctors try to understand why chemicals & m/c are happening? I feel quite alone in here in that regard, it's like, oh this happens. Keep trying.
In my case, I start strongly believing my age is playing a high role here and my eggs have maybe not much quality anymore, I am 41 (extendfertility.com/fertility-and-egg-quality/ )
So this gives me more strength to go and start the ivf process in January with the analysis etc. I have this cycle still and hopefully we can manage on the right days, as this holiday season we have family here but will also spend some 3 nights out (which I managed to be on the right timing I hope!)
I wish you strength, hope and luck for the next cycle ❤️

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Aggie53 · 15/12/2019 09:32

@ElsaTam hey how are you doing today ? Wasn’t here for a few days. Did you make an appointment with the doctor ? He will be able to tell you what’s going on ! Please try not to over analyze it will make you crazy !! I know it’s easier said than done but try ! I m sorry to hear all about your pain and worry ❤️ It’s devastating. Let me know if you see a doctor ! I’m thinking of you

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rhirhibumblebee · 15/12/2019 09:19

@ElsaTam I'm so sorry!! I had a chemical in October and it was so disappointing! I hope you are alright? It's so hard! I just felt so let down by my body to have a chemical /early miscarriage and then the miscarriage 😓😓. Group hug for us!

My lines were fainter last night so I'm hoping my bloods are ok on Monday . I hope the new year brings us good news 💕xxx

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ElsaTam · 14/12/2019 13:23

I am dear ❤️ thank you. Starting again... I also will enjoy! xxx

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justmumming1 · 14/12/2019 13:05

Im giving up for now! Im going to relax and find joy on the children I already have , anjoy christmas, have some posecco and see how I feel in the new year. hope you are ok @ElsaTam xxxx

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ElsaTam · 14/12/2019 12:15

@justmumming1 thank you so much ❤️ you are very sweet. Yes I understand.. but if I am preggo and miscarry I thought the "period" would be in all ways different. but this is an early loss so actually not that different than a period. Started out different this morning with brown brown and just little bit spotting. Unfortunately now I am totally bleeding myself out, red normal blood. It's my period I have no doubts. The good thing on this is: it was quick and I can move on ❤️ lots of love for you.
I started thinking this is due to my old eggs (I am 41..), so I will just try other ways.

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justmumming1 · 14/12/2019 09:58

what hes saying is come
in for 6wks to check
for a heartbeat which is when they can see it. But if you bleed before this come i and he will check if the pregnancy is still viable. So just book to see him and he can scan to see whats hapoening. Its normal for lines to dissapear when the hgc becomes too high, I read that if you dilute your wee with some water then dip it it can show better at this stage. Also brown spotting is normal in pregnanct anyway, So book in and see what he says dont worry too much yet!

I just started bleeding 4 dayd early so i guess i did have an early MC

oh well
xxxxx stay strong hun

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ElsaTam · 14/12/2019 09:08

So ladies, lost this pregnancy.. 17dpo the line is barely visible. Started to spot brown now after the test, just by wiping ar the moment. Can someone help me? Being so early, will this be a normal period? What can I expect now?
My problem is that doctor made a scan, something was there, obviously, I was pregnant. And he told me to go there in 2 weeks (so by 6w pregnancy) in case I am still. He told me to go there meanwhile in case I start bleeding but not the normal for my period. And now just crosses my mind: well, what does he mean with this?? Of course if I miscarry this won't be a "normal" period! started with brown (not normal) already! Anyway, maybe he meant if I am pregnant and start bleeding, but sure I am pregnant? I'm confused... don't want to go there. I just want this now to be over.
Doctor also didn't seem overly concerned if this is the second time I have a chemical, but maybe we should understand why is this happening? I am 41yo and feel I will just be losing time by trying and having chemicals.
But tomorrow is another day. If something was wrong with baby, of course, this is the best. But what if is me having some other issue? Maybe hormonal? How will I know? What can I do about all this? Maybe I should immediately book an appointment for ivf in my country to go through analyses etc?
Sorry about this ranting.. I am devastated and heartbroken.

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ElsaTam · 13/12/2019 23:42

@justmumming1 that's so strange what has happened to you Hmm one day of positive tests and nothing more has happened? Are you due already?
Here also in a rollercoaster.. but I think I will give up testing and just wait for af. Today i took 3 tests (10miu) FMU, midday and emd of the day and all vfaint lines.. I'm so done with everything.

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justmumming1 · 13/12/2019 14:42

i got another blank test guys, no idea what happened there but there no baby this time around xx

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ElsaTam · 13/12/2019 10:07

@rhirhibumblebee ohhh my dear... that is so difficult 😢 I am very sorry to hear that. I always thought that if happening so much in the beginning, our bodies miscarry naturally and no intervention is needed. Why is this happening? They confirmed to you it was a miscarriage correct? Are you bleeding to much? I feel for you, losing is already horrible thing to go through and having this waiting makes everything really really really hard. ❤️ Thinking about you.
I am not in a high hope today. Very faint line in the morning again. If to lose it, better sooner than later... this is like a rollercoaster.

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rhirhibumblebee · 13/12/2019 09:37

@ElsaTam I hope we can trade lines next week! Mine are still so so dark 😓😓. I'm hoping that I won't need an operation, I will find out Monday but just tested again and STILL very positive. Can't believe it! Hope my levels drop by Monday 😩😩 xxx

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ElsaTam · 12/12/2019 23:58

@justmumming1 my af should have arrived yesterday 11th Dec (14dpo). It's night here now, tomorrow morning it will be 16dpo.. let's see how it goes, but was hoping the 25miu tests would be more visible for now.

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ElsaTam · 12/12/2019 23:52

@rhirhibumblebee you are so right! I think I should just stop. It's heartbreaking. I had such strong lines at midday, but now evening again I tried with different cheap brands (25miu) and is barely visible and can't understand why these levels don't just go up. But in the end.. what has to be, it will be.

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rhirhibumblebee · 12/12/2019 19:32

@ElsaTam Aww that's good it's looking darker. Try not to stress over the tests, leave it for a few days and then see. It's all too tempting to test more but it can cause more frustration. 💕xx

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justmumming1 · 12/12/2019 15:47

@ElsaTam its weird isnt it? how are your lines looking? have you missed your af yet

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ElsaTam · 12/12/2019 13:55

For me the 10miu test with FMU was also not that strong (same as yesterday which was already lighter than the day before) and put me quite down. But then did another 10miu ar midday and was bit stronger. 25miu tests appear a very faint line today at midday. But I am all over the place with all this. Excitement/heartbreak.. It's really hard.
I hope your tests will catch again the line, after all, you had 2 yesterday, cannot be evaps!

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ElsaTam · 12/12/2019 13:41

@justmumming1 wow but that is so strange! Yesterday the line was pretty strong.. maybe try again tomorrow morning?

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justmumming1 · 12/12/2019 11:41

here it is

4DPO today - anyone joining the 2ww??
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justmumming1 · 12/12/2019 10:55

i spoke too soon, got a completely negative test today! not even a hint of a line so i have no idea what happened

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justmumming1 · 11/12/2019 21:26

@ElsaTam i know, what will be will be x fingers crossed for u hun

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