Backache

[KittyandTeal]

I am now 5 days away from my period being due. It's my first month ttc after our tfmr in jan.

I fell fairly quickly with dd1 as wasn't really tracking or watching symptoms.

With dd2 (who ended up having T18) we weren't actively trying but had stopped preventing iyswim.

We're now ready to try again. We dtd every other day around ovulation time. Since then, around 3dpo I started getting pretty bad abdominal cramps, like prior to period. They lasted around 3 days. Since then I've had a really achy lower back that I just can't shift.

No other real symptoms other than an increased appetite but that could be down to my running. Oh and fatigue, which I really suffered with both my other pregnancies.

It is possible that the cramps 3dpo were actually ovulation pains and that the app I use calculated my fertile time wrong which would be really annoying but nothing I can do now. I'll get opk next month.

What on earth is this back ache though? It's driving me mad. I've never had to do the traditional tww thing and I've been driving myself mad with the 'am I? Aren't I?' questions.

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that kitty :(
Woken up this morning with a pressure into my groin and awful backache. Still only spotting brown icky stuff (tmi, sorry) .. So I have a feeling AF is on it's way nearly a week late! Which is just strange, but what can you do?
I shall let you know :)

[KittyandTeal]

So AF arrived last night, not surprised but it's a really painful one.

Fingers crossed for next week.

How are you getting on dreaming?

[KittyandTeal]

I've had some pink spotting when wiping today so I think between that, the negative test and that fact that I always spot a few days before I come on it is pretty much a done deal.

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

Still got the dreadful backache and cramping.. But just brown spotting maybe once a day?
Was due on Sunday, so no idea. Still gonna leave it until after the weekend that way I'm 28-35 days in my cycle. My usual cycle is 35 days but I ovulated a week early so should have had AF Monday... We shall see :)

And the sciatic nerve kitty is god awful! Here's hoping that sorts itself out pretty soon!
I've had AF type cramping and bloating for 7-10 days now... So it isn't over until AF arrives! :)

[KittyandTeal]

I'm very impressed with your willpower dreaming!

I'm getting those pre AF type cramps and heavy feeling iykwim so I'm not too hopeful.

In other news; I've just done my sciatic nerve! Very sore and annoying but in some ways a welcome distraction!

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

That's so frustrating!! :( only a few more days to go though?

My backache has calmed but still there. Cramping continues and brown spotting for 4 days now. No AF though.
Gonna leave it until after the weekend I think :)
Let us know how you get on! :)

[KittyandTeal]

Well I'm feeling bloody rough. Backache is still here, I thought I'd got over the fatigue but it's back, I'm shattered! Plus I've had some cramping pains in my abdomen. Plus unrelenting headaches!

I think it may well be the run up to AF. I'm due sat so I'll just wait things out. If nothing happens I'll take another test but I'm fully expecting my period to arrive. I'm hoping it's a virus tbh, I don't fancy this every month.

Saying that my counsellor (who is an ex screening midwife) did say tues is very early to test if due on sat. Although the first response says its 87% accurate on day 5 so that's more than likely a negative.

Either way I'm no further on than the other day

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

Anymore news or developments kitty? :)

[KittyandTeal]

I definitely don't trust my body anymore!

I'm still knackered, back and leg aches, gas and boobs are getting more painful. Plus I could eat half the fridge atm. These may well all be pre-menstrual signs but at least they're not psychosomatic (I was wondering if I'd just convinced myself I'd felt these things)

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

If your body is still playing tricks in the next 7 days though - I would definitely POAS.
You never know... Our lives have a way of deciding things for us. :)

I'm spotting again. But nothing consistent or AF like. For goodness sake lol x

[KittyandTeal]

You've hit the nail on the head dreaming. I'm going to look at this negative as another month that I have 'off' the potentially heartbreaking months of pregnancy.

I know I won't feel like that in a few months of negatives.

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

If I am pregnant it would be like immaculate conception!! We've had sex once in the last 6 weeks.. As we've both been in and out of the country with work.. I think we shared a bed 3 times in a 4 week period! Nightmare!

I suppose I've just gotta see how this week pans out..

And kitty.. Maybe do the same? Just see what your body does in the next 7 days and go from there? Our bodies have a habit of getting us into a routine and then doing something completely different to throw us!! :( and the grief is so so understandable.. It must have been such an emotional and heart breaking time... The next BFP will most likely be a huge mix between sadness, happiness and "oh my god!" :) you've got to allow yourself all of those emotions - it's human :)

Keep is updated though! :)
Xx

[KittyandTeal]

Thanks dreaming. I've never done a test before my period is due but I've always got a strong positive on the first missed day (even with dd2 who had T18, one of the symptoms being very low hcg levels)

I'm not going to get my hopes up, I'm very disappointed but the emotions are all linked in with grief etc anyway so I kind of knew it would hit me hard, whatever the result tbh!

Your situation sounds very positive. If it makes you feel better I had a fair bit of brown spotting with dd1 and a few bleeds, she's now a happy most of the time when I do what she wants 2.8yo.

I'm keeping all my fingers crossed for you

[Putneymummy1]

God waiting is so hard isn't it! Ugh.

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

kitty I would definitely wait until you are due on.
The first time I was pregnant I didn't show until I was 8 weeks pregnant on a test! Not to get your hopes up, like putney says.. But it is always possible. It isn't over until AF rears her ugly head! :)

I was due on Sunday night/Monday morning.. Always happens that way - I wake Monday with it in all it's painful glory. But no. Boobs are still sore. Back pain and cramping remains. Some brown spotting yesterday lunchtime.. And now nothing at all?? :(

[KittyandTeal]

Not at all :)

It's very odd, I'm shattered atm and normally my energy levels are pretty good plus this backache that won't shift! I'm hoping it's a coincidence as I've had it since ovulating, fingers crossed it's not going to become a regular symptom.

I guess there is a slim, outside chance the test was wrong but unlikely for a first response 4 days before I'm due.

[Putneymummy1]

Really? Maybe its pre period then. I guess it's all the same muscles. Sorry if my post got your hopes up/made you panic more. All the best for next month xx

[KittyandTeal]

Just did a first response and its negative

Oh well, next month maybe

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

How are you feeling today kitty?
I've woken up 15dpo and no AF. Not even a teeny tiny bit when I wipe.

But I can understand your exhaustion! I'm currently sleeping 10-11 hours a night and also having 2 hour naps in the day! :( just avoiding POAS at the moment...

[KittyandTeal]

Sounds like you both have stronger symptoms than me. I can't really decide if my boobs are a bit tender or if it's my mind.

The only symptom I've ever really had in previous pregnancies is the exhaustion and feeling 'off' which is how I feel atm, but then I felt like that the month before I conceived dd2 so it could be nothing.

[SoozeyHoozey]

Op I'm due on tomorrow and I've had horrendous lower back pain for a few days now, doesn't feel like an ache, almost feels like a stabbing pain!

[dreamingofmynextsleep]

Hey.. The exact same thing has happened to me!
I ovulated (if my EWCM is anything to go by) a week early.. But that would be the day that OH and I didn't use anything as we weren't expecting an egg to appear for another week.. So from 7dpo I've had cramping and sore boobs - which aren't pre AF things for me - and then over the weekend, my back pain has been chronic and, like you, I've been unable to get at all comfortable.
I was due on today and usually wake on the Monday to full blown, heavy AF... But I've had one lot of brown spotting when I wiped at lunchtime and nothing... Just random twinges and pulls with a few moments of, what feels like, motion sickness...

Gonna see how the week goes, if nothing has come of this spotting by the end of the week, I'm gonna test! :(

[KittyandTeal]

Thanks, I'll try the hot water bottle and report back once I've plucked up the courage to test, or AF arrives

[Putneymummy1]

Yep I hear you! Good luck either way! X

[KittyandTeal]

I could get one burin trying to hold our until sat when I'm due. I'd worry as it's not 99% accurate this early.

In also at that stage where I desperately want to be pregnant but I also know that getting a positive will be the start of (hopefully) 9 very stressful, anxious months full of tests and scans. I think I like the idea of a few more days not knowing if that makes any sense at all