I'm so fed up for myself and for my DD. She's in so much pain at the moment which I think may be a EDS flare up ( she's not yet properly diagnosed we are waiting appointment). She is always in pain, every day and we usually manage okay really but this last 10 days or so ( and escalating since September) she's in agony, crying, vomiting with pain, unable to do anything. She's always bed bound. I'm now with her in her room pretty much 24/7 ( always around normally I never leave her I've been out of the house without her 4 times since September for short times) but at the moment I feel I need to be in her room or very close by as it takes so much energy for her to summon me ( we use texts or pain an emergency she uses a doorbell), and when she needs me I have to get there fast.
She's told me she can't go on. She wants so much to go swimming, to skate, to see her friend, to go to university. But she's been like this for 8 years. 6 years ago we were living in a hospital until a nursing home bed became available. She was tube fed then. Now she eats what she can when she can as she's 22 and the NHS can no longer force her to be tube fed and she's home.
she wants to die. I don't want her to but feel so selfish forcing her to stay alive. 3 years ago she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer on top of her very severe ME, POTs and EDS ( diagnosed by paed but never formally so) and she begged us not to make her have chemo so she could die. I feel guilty every single day that my DH guilt tripped her into doing so.
My elder DD is getting married this year, there's no way DD could get there. I don't even want to go to the wedding it will be so complex arranging alternative care for the 2 hour ceremony ( I won't go to reception). I keep thinking about how to help her just exist every day. I am fed up really so I'm sorry. Just need to offload somewhere anonymous
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Chronic pain
Just a moan about chronic pain and how shit it is
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Sooverthemill · 18/05/2021 10:09
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