Fun way to announce pregnancy on Christmas Day?

[curiousgeorgie]

If everything goes well, I should be having my 12 week scan on the 14th December, and so far DH and I have told no one we're expecting DC 2.. (Due to a history of early miscarriage)

This Christmas our two best friends, all my brothers and families, my grandparents and my aunt and uncle will all be going to my parents for Christmas so we thought it would be great to announce it then :)

But not sure how to do it... Any fun ideas?

[3bunnies]

We gave scan pictures in photo frames to grandparents, saying we would replace them with a clearer picture in 6 months time. It wasn't at Christmas, but they were facinated as hadn't seen scan pictures before as dh and I were both prescan. I guess the OP will know if it was likely to be an issue. In our family my dsis had already said they weren't having more and BIL wasn't trying until ds (our third was due). For ds dh did tell BIL on phone as we guessed it might be harder, but they then had only been trying for 6 months.

[GoldPlatedNineDoors]

See, I disagree Morally, it becomes about a new family member. A new (possibly first) grandchild, neice or nephew, cousin....

A new baby is joyous news to share.

[WhatWouldGuyFawkesDo]

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[PurplePidjin]

I wouldn't because it then makes the whole day about you which I don't really think is fair

Only if you're a total drama queen who sulks when the subject changes!

In my case, my gran has been nagging for years about ggc. She honestly thought it would never happen, that she'd die first. It's not up to us to decide about what's appropriate for the OP's imaginary cousin who hasn't told anyone about her 10 year fertility battle!

[Northernlurker]

I wouldn't ever, ever do this. It is tacky, it assumes that everybody else will be sublimely happy for you whatever their own distress AND it presumes that your baby is a subject of intense interest to everybody else. Do we really think 'our two best friends, all my brothers and families, my grandparents and my aunt and uncle ' want their Christmas to be all about your baby?

[MorallyBankrupt]

Only if you're a total drama queen who sulks when the subject changes!

IMO needing to make a big 'announcement'' smacks of the drama Queen.

[RememberMumsTheWord]

OP only do it if you are sure that all present on the day won't be upset in any way or you can totally ruin someone elses Christmas.

I had a MC on Christmas day several years ago, it was awful, I had lost hope of ever being a mum and then on Boxing day I had to sit whilst SIL starting passing around scan pictures knowing full well what had happened the day before.

If you are sure that no one will be potentially upset then a novelty gift for the grandparents with 'worlds best grandma' or similar or a book of nursery rhymes and a note telling them they better start practising.

[PurplePidjin]

It's dramatic news. Outside family, i was very understated

Mate: how's things
Me: oh, you know, morning sickness sucks but everything else is cool. How are you?
Mate:

How, exactly, does one announce a pregnancy and avoid all the mithering and fuss? Might as well have some fun planning the announcement to the few people close enough to care!

[EdgarAllanPond]

my first pregnancy was found out close to Xmas - everyone was delighted.

apart from me wot didn't get to drink much.

my sister was already trying then and would be for the next 5 years. she was nice every time though made cutting comments about my weight .

that's because we're family. families exist to piss you off, and make you happy.

[winkle2]

Georgie, openminded and rue - hello

[cravingcake]

Dont listen to those saying its tacky or insensitive. You will be aware of anyone in your family that may be struggling with feetility & can therefore warn them in advance if need be.

I would do a small present for everyone with a scan pic or a card to grandma, aunt etc for them all to open at the same time.

[cravingcake]

Posted bfore i was finished!

Or dont say a thing until lunch or when the bubbly gets opened and just say you have a small announcement of a tounger borther/sister for your son.

We have just decided to move a 5 hr journey away (due to work mainly) from where we live at moment and are deciding the best way to break the news to DH parents and our friends and may leave it to our christmas do on the 22nd but may decide to tell people individualy before then.

A big announcement on christmas day is not making it all about you, its just sharing the excitement of your family growing.

[Mintyy]

I think its a bit naff. Tell people individually after you've had your scan. Many congratulations on your pregnancy .

[Northernlurker]

'You will be aware of anyone in your family that may be struggling with feetility '

Errr no, not necessarily.

[SecretCermonials]

Christmas is 25/12 OPs scan is 14/12...

I would say that just as much as you may upset struggling people if you tell individually you have the gauntlet of "he knew before us"... Just to be devils advocate

[OliviaMumsnet]

My DB and SIL did this for DN1
They gave us all lottery scratch cards before Christmas lunch. Except my mum, who got the scan photo.
We thought it was lovely. would have been even better if I had won anything on my scratch card

[toomuchmonthatendofthemoney]

Stuff a babygro up the turkey in secret, then when everyone is sitting down waiting for the carving, drag it out with a flourish, swing it round your head and announce "that's not the only thing to have a good stuffing recently!!"

[EdgarAllanPond]

if my brothers were struggling with fertility, that would be a surprise...their main struggle has been getting females close enough for it to be an issue.

my parents rather evidently haven't

my sister i knew about whilst it was going on. she gave birth a few days before xmas last year and that XMas definitely was all about her and her new baby.

And WHy Not?

[IHeartKingThistle]

We arrived for Christmas, dragged presents, luggage and DD out of the car, collapsed on the sofa and said 'Blimey, I don't know how we fitted all that in the car. It's going to be even worse next year with one more car seat.' Then acted nonchalant for about 5 seconds as the penny gradually dropped. Great fun.

Your family will be delighted, you know they will, announce it how you want to and make a lovely memory.

[curiousgeorgie]

Wow, I didn't realise it was such a controversial subject matter!

Just to clear a few things up, our two best friends are single and childless by choice. My oldest brother has two children and a very new relationship with someone he wouldn't even have had time to try for a baby with yet, my 22 year old brother and his girlfriend had an 'accident' quite recently (much loved now though!!) and are absolutely not trying for children... My other two brothers are 16 and 14... The rest of the relatives are all old enough to have grandchildren. (And most have them.)

In the past 14 months I've had six miscarriages, and most of the people who will be here are aware of that, I've never made it past 6 weeks before and it's been an absolutely hellish time... I swore that I would never tell anyone that I was pregnant again, and go to great lengths so as people don't suspect, until I'd got past that stage and had a few successful scans. I know for sure that everyone there will be happy for me. So sorry if its tacky, or if I'm being a drama queen, or making Christmas all about me... I'm really not, just five minutes somewhere in the day. Hopefully.

Thanks to everyone else for your great suggestions!!

(And huge congratulations Rue, open minded and hi winkle!! )

[onessa]

What a lot of very miserable people on here! The op is pregnant and happy about it,she wants to share her great news.Christmas is about families and happiness, surely it is the BEST time to announce an impending new member of the family. A baby brings joy and hope to families. Surely even if , or ESPECiALLy if, people have had difficulty conceiving, then anyone would be pleased to know that other people in their position had become pregnant and are enjoying it.
Congrats op. Enjoy your announcement, enjoy your pregnancy and your baby...you deserve it!

[TheMummyLovesAScareFest]

what a lot of misery guts! you know ypur family and friends and how they'll take the news. if it was our xmas day it would make the day even better. I told dsis about dc3 by writing a birthday card to auntie love from bump. she cried and it made her day.

could you put an extra present under the tree , labelled to baby?

[TheMummyLovesAScareFest]

we always give calendars. you could write the due date on it. play chinese whispers and watch their faces as the message goes around.