Hello! At last I have a baby boy and am over the moon with him. He was 7lb 9oz with rather a large head. Born at 11.59 28 Dec.
Thanks for all your supportive messages on this thread - I couldn't have got through those last days without the understanding.
It was a pretty horrible traumatising labour but my son was unharmed by the whole experience, which is more than can be said for his mother!
After those 5 days of horrible and breathtaking contractions my silly cervix had only dilated to 1 measly cm!!! Grrrrrr
They insisted that they induced me as, altho inconclusive, it transpired that my waters may have actually broken well over 48 hours before. While I had no signs of infection I wasn't willing to take the risk of leaving it - and the hospital pretty much insisted on immediate induction. I was put on the syntocin drip and advised that the pain of the artificially intensified contractions after 5 exhausting days of painful contractions with no sleep, not to mention the excruciating pains in my back, would just be too much without. I know I couldn't have done it without as the epidural couldn't get rid of the back pains with each contraction and they were bad enough on their own without feeling them at the front as well. This torture went on for 19 hours and was the most surreal experience of my life. I have a severe needle-phobia and passed out when they put the drip in my hand which upset the baby's heartbeat, then at one point we were rushed into theatre because his heart slowed right down when he bumped his head on my pelvis during a VE. He's a strong little boy and recovered quickly enough for us to avoid a CS. All very scary stuff though. So, then eventually at 10 cm dilated I was told to push although I had no feelings in my legs at all and was up in stirrups. As I was so determined to avoid forceps or ventouse I have never tried to do anything with so much determination. I tore very very badly and the swelling is so bad I still can't sit down! I can now walk again and am beginning to feel better but it's been a real struggle learning to look after a newborn with little or no mobility.
Additionally, the hospital hadn't noticed that I had haemorraged after the birth as they just left me with my crying little boy in our drenched delivery bed, with my paralysed legs, for 7 hours afterwards as they were so busy and I was unable to walk. I have never been so alone and afraid in all my life. My husband had been sent home to rest! It took 2 days of me saying that I felt very faint and ill for them to test my blood count and seeing how low it was they then gave me 2 blood transfusions. Anyway, the nightmare is over and if I had to do it again for my darling boy I would! However, this birth experience makes me seriously question ever having another child.
Thanks again for all your kind thoughts and advice.
Hxxx