"But Bear - control in labour is an illusion - we are at the mercy of genetics/chance/unknown factors related to baby - there is no such thing as a labour a woman can control"
Oh come on - you can't control the position of your baby (usually), or the rate at which your cervix dilates, or the shape of your pelvis, but you can often have some control over:
- what you do with your body in response to the contractions,
- how you mentally respond to the experience of labour,
- how you are treated by the people looking after you.
And I know this because I felt in control of myself through most of my second two labours, once I'd organised to be looked for by someone who shaped the care she gave me according to my specific needs, rather than the organisational needs and protocols of the NHS.
And there will be other women on this board who will tell you the same.
"And I think the lie, that by subscribing to any set of beliefs - ESPECIALLY total faith in Ina May Gaskin or your consultant or whoever - you can have what you want, rather than what nature has in store - is just as big a contributor to PND."
Nobody in their right mind would say or suggest that it's reasonable to lead women to feel that they can avoid all problems in labour if they plan it right, or have care from someone they trust. But it DOES make a difference to the majority. And that difference is reflected in the better clinical outcomes for low risk women cared for by independent midwives.
Really - it doesn't make sense to take that sort of fatalistic attitude, to insist that because you can't control some aspects of labour, you therefore can't control anything at all about the birth. It's also not true, as many women on this board will tell you in relation to their personal experiences.
Re: PND - actually I've got some research on this, one of the very few studies on expectations of birth and how they impact on women's feelings after birth. They show that women who go into birth with high expectations of being treated well, and an expectation that they will find it a positive experience (albeit with a realistic expectation that anything can happen), have the best psychological outcomes afterwards, independent of what actually happens during labour. Which of course runs pretty much counter to the stereotype bandied about on mumsnet.
"and the main thing that will put you in one camp or the other is genetics and you have no control over it".
If the POB figures are to be believed the single most influential thing when it comes to what sort of birth you have is WHERE you have your baby. You are a healthy mum, you appear to be really very much more likely to have an uncomplicated birth if you stay the hell away from a CLU to have your baby, and either head for a MLU or stay at home.
Redtoothbrush
I'm warning you - those tables on BirthChoice can suck the life out of you. I've spent hours goggling at them, saying, 'What? No! Eh? WTF!'