I don't know what I'm expecting here but my office days have increased since I started my Hybrid job 2 years ago. My y5 child has anxiety around school and sleep, we are back to the GP soon for a second go of the referral system for children's MH.
DC is scared of elements of school, firedrills, lockdown practice, even just reading texts that are scary or doing a topic like the Black Death will have DC unable to sleep and not wanting to go to school. DC cried for an hour as was so frightened by Black Death lesson was afraid to sleep even in the same room as me with a TV on - these thoughts come at bedtime and we call them Sticky Thoughts.
Because of this, DC refuses (as much as a y5 can) to go to any wraparound childcare and just wants to be in the safety of family and friends. DC is happy to play at friends houses so will leave me on THEIR terms so I don't how much I am being 'played?!
My manager is aware of some of the issues but probably doesn't realise the day to day strain this puts on me for sorting childcare and getting to work and has suggested I sort more fixed and regular childcare when I mentioned family support is limited. Our employer wants us in more days now and family cannot meet the demand. DC doesn't want to go to breakfast club and I feel I shouldn't force it but I may need to. DC isn't open to childminders either even though one lives opposite me.
I don't want to approach my boss about the difficulties and look as though I am making excuses to reduce my office days or hours. I was an anxious child so am very empathetic to my DC which may not help! .
Any advice? DH has very strict work hours leaving the house long before me whereas mine has been the reasonably flexible role but as commute can be 2 hours for me, I can't really expect my workplace to allow my office days to start at 11am.
In a perfect world I'd drop DC at breakfast club and get on with my days work. It would solve a lot of problems but I worry will compound DCs school anxiety further.
What would you do? I've been clinging to the hope of DC growing out of it all, I'm so sad to see the anxiety, I worry it was passed on genetically as there has been no seperation or major life events that would have caused it.
On the plus side, DC presents as a high achiever, socialises well and is confident in so many other ways which is a blessing. Just wish I could remove the fear!
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Employee support while child has MH issues?
JellyDrops · 15/01/2024 16:04
SameOldSong · 15/01/2024 16:17
I don't agree with the school refusers having anxious parents, maybe some, not all. I think having a child suffer with school refusal, which isn't a choice by the way, makes parents extremely anxious. Especially with so little understanding and support. No parent wants their child out of school.
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