Hi all, I'm new here and wondered if anyone had been in a similar situation. Please be nice!
Firstly my partner left when my son was 1 and I have always always tried to push him to see our son and he's never stepped up. He went on to have another child and my son was pushed aside.
Now after a lot of hastle we agreed he would have one afternoon a week but my son has beeen telling me he only turned up for 10 minutes or spent all the time with his other child. This has been going on for over 6 years and I've constantly been giving out olive branches. I'd offer to pay for them to spend time together etc
However whilst all this has been going on my child has been suffering with mental health issues but his dad has not been concerned or bothered just called me a liar.
A few weeks ago my child had to have an emergency crisis assessment after finding suicidal letters. The outcome was my child felt abandoned and pushed out and that he wanted to die so he didn't have to see his dad anymore... this was so so heartbreaking :(
I was advised to alert his dad and in the best way I could I did. He sounded understanding at first.
However my son said he only wanted to see his dad if he got time alone with him. So we discussed a contact centre and my child agreed this would be fine with him if he got the time alone he wanted.
So I have contacted a private contact centre but his dad is refusing to go through with it. Since everything happened he hasn't asked if he is ok. Hasn't tried to see him or talk to my child. I was advised that due to the mental health impact he has had on my child that I should just leave contact until he takes me to court as I shouldn't force a relationship he clearly doesn't want with my son. I'm so confused as I don't understand why he wouldn't want to do what he could to give our child what he wants. What is best to do? Just not push for contact and let him sort it? Or push it and if he fails to turn up take him to court? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
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Loopylou321 · 19/08/2017 08:26
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