My DS is nearly 9. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, ASD and Dyslexia in the last couple of years. As he gets older his Autism has become more and more pronounced. He's academically sort of keeping afloat but can't dress or clean himself,is very controlling with food and has sleep issues and short term memory loss. He's very anxious, he has a little insight and considers himself a failure at everything. He is very literal so struggles to understand what's said to him and it feels like he argues with everything unless it's also said literally, which I find exhausting
I've sold my business and we've recently moved to another country where my DH has more time off and I can both spend more time with my DS. It's been tough for all of us but we are already happier than we were. His school And his GP are more supportive than back home.
I spend more time with him than ever before and I feel as though I'm understanding him more but I just continue to be devastated by his Autism and ADHD. I read about other parents just getting on with life (we don't know any other Autistic children) but I seem not to be able to do that.
My son is a really special boy and I love every part of him but it breaks my heart on a daily basis to see him struggling.
I suspect my DH is also on the spectrum although he hasn't been diagnosed. He is in denial about my son and so we have difficulty in talking openly about it. We have no family near by and what family is back at home also struggle to accept what is happening.
I had councelling until we moved which did help but I'm stuck at not getting over the problems our son has. I just feel so sad for him.
Why can't I just get on with life and stop grieving for the life I feel he should have had? any help would be appreciated..
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Child mental health
What can't I get over my sons diagnosis?
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lifeisfuckinggreat · 02/05/2012 11:01
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