Daughter had her hair cut at school by another pupil.

[Nicola1983]

Hi there,

Just wanted to get everyones opinion please. On Friday just past i was called over to my daughter class teacher at the end of the school dya to say that another pupil had taken a pair of scissors and cut her hair. I was shocked to say the least but i was told it wasnt all that noticable and that the child in question had had their privillage time taken off them. At this point i may piont out the children in question are 4 and 5 years old.

On further inspection when i got home i could see the extent of the damage and i could have cried. Its awful. My daughter has long hair and right at the back near the crown she now has a clump of hair that is no more that than 1 inch in length. Both she and i are devestated that another child could behave this way to another pupil.

My husband marched up to the school to speek to the headmaster about it and both the class teacher and he headmaster said they would put it in writing to us as to how they are going to deal with this but to be honest im still not happy.

Having spoken to my daughter and other children in the class they were all sitting on the carpet listening to another teacher and the little boy in question ot up, went and got a pair of scissors and just cut off a chunk of my little girls hair - fully intentionally. When i asked what happend to the boy my daughter and her friends told me the teacher told him that that wasnt a very kind thing to do and he was removed from the class to sit int hte quiet room until he could learn how to behave.

My other concearn is that only i was informed about the incident. The parent of the little boy in question were not told about this at all and were allowed to go home and carry on as normal. I have written a letter to his parents telling them what i think about it all and that i will be seeking further action. Had this been an older child within the school, without any question they would have been suspended.

I am now debating weather or not to send my child back to school now. I mean what next - he takes another pair of scissors and stabs her in the eye with them??????

Anyway - any advie or guidlines etc would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

Nicola

[Victoria1997]

You aren’t over reacting mom . I would be ROYALY fucking pissed if another classmate cut my daughters beautiful hair.
I think I would probably cry too.

And for the ones that say “it grows back” it really doesn’t sometimes . It will grow , but not as long anymore. Atleast that’s my experience from getting my hair cut in elementary school and it just didn’t want to grow long anymore . Same experience for others aswell AND IT TAKES A LONG TIME!

Anyways . I would request to put your child in another class now . ASAP. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with my daughter in the same class with that kid anymore.

And YES 5 year olds should know better to keep their hands to themselves . My daughter is 5 .
In this case I would NOT just shrug it off as “oh he’s a child oh well” lmao no it has to do with the parenting . I would just get on the parents for this cause obviously . and let them know that BC of their kid you and your daughter don’t feel comfortable in the same class . Honestly would try and purposely make them feel bad . Bc that’s how they made me feel and my daughter feel about her hair . Call me petty . But Momma Bear can get that way.

[spurs12345]

What a total over the top reaction for your childs hair being cut by another child at school. My daughter (7) had her hair cut by another at school and yes it looked not straight at the back as it was a chunk of hair. But I did not go marching up to the teachers and I did not write a letter to the parents of the child. I actually did nothing about it as kids do these sort of things anyway. Dont forget that hair grows back and it. Also one last thing. Talk to the teachers about the bullying and not to the parents.

[MrsNonSmoker]

I just noticed original date as well - what's that all about? Anyway, wonder if the OP notices she's been shaken about and popped on a current thread again - will she let us know what has happened since? Would be nice if it was all resolved?

[Lucy916]

Well this just happened to me today, my daughter (5yrs) came home today with the edge of her hair cut down to where there's maybe an inch left, not to mention she has done this to herself on two other occasions. One, she was a year old an pulled out a ponytail and when she was 3 she got hold of scissors and cut a braid. I was able to grow it back pretty good. Now with the school incident, yes the little girl who cut my daughter's hair should be reprimanded and most importantly the teacher/teachers should be reprimanded as well for no supervision during this. Yes I am livid too, so I know how you feel, but kids this age will experiment. BTW my son (5yrs) who is her twin cut my nieces (13yrs old) hair into pieces while she was sleeping. The teachers should be held more accountable in this kind of situation also with some consequence for the child who did it. And there should be some explanation and/or apology from parents, I would say to avoid legal issues. Right now that's how I feel, I'm trying to deal with this with a level head. Hope things worked out well for you. Lanoluster hair grease works wonders.

[WingDad]

I cut another lad's hair when I was at primary school

He was annoying me!

[dichotomy]

Yes if the OP had stated "my daughter is getting bullied"

She didn't, it was all about the hair-cutting. which is relatively minor(as has been pointed out)

[serenity]

What is with random people resurrecting old threads lately?

[VivaLeBeaver]

Old thread alert.

[Jenzi]

I wonder if any of you could put yourselves in the shoes of the victim here. Stop promoting bad behavior. I have just had my sons hair chopped off by another pupil at school in class, I am thankfull it was just his hair but i cant hang around to see what happens next Its attidudes posted here that drive teachers and governers to sit back and think well children will always do that to each other. The same pupil has been bulling him for weeks now.
Are you people out there going suggest to me, get over it? If we don't teach children consequences of their behavior Why is everybody running scared of todays youth?

Todays its me, who knows 2morrow might just be your turn. How is it going to feel then, i wonder?

[geordieminx]

Although I have no experience of reception classes I would be more concerned that the little boy was not being supervised, and that the scissors were available for him to go and get - surely this is the teachers responsibilty?

Agree with everyone else though - at 4/5 they cannot be "punnished" for this, anymore than sitting in quiet area - what were you expecting - 5 strokes of the cane?

[JollyPirate]

Okay - I was wrong regarding scissors being out of reach. I am going by my own DS here as he would not have been trustworthy around scissors at age 4-5. He used to cut his teeshirts but never chopped another child's hair thank goodness.

[cece]

I think you are over reacting about the hair. Haircutting incidents happen at that age. And hair grows back...

I would advise 100% against writing to the parents of the boy about this. Let the school deal with it - they are the ones with the experience and know this boy better than you do.

I would definitely ask to speak to the Headteacher about the pushing and hair pulling though. I agree this boy could have SEN and although the school will not talk about this to you they should be able to listen to your concerns and perhaps provide further help for him if required.

[OrmRenewed]

BTW sorry about the hair. Was your DD upset?

[OrmRenewed]

"I have written a letter to his parents telling them what i think about it all and that i will be seeking further action."

Yes of course they should have him hung drawn and quartered. Do you find that 'marching up to the school' gets a positive reaction

Of course the hitting is more serious but why so obsessed with the hair. And how do you know what sort of on-going communication the school have with this boy's parents?

[MmeLindt]

Just noticed your post about hitting and pulling hair. That would make me more angry than the hair cutting incident.

How were these issues dealt with by the school?

[onebadbaby]

YABU unless there are other issues. Reception children cut their own and others hair once in a while. I taught reception and in most years there is a hair cutting incident. As for keeping scissors away from children, that is ridiculous. Most five year olds can be trusted around scissors (and they will be rounded ended child's scissors). They are an integral part of classroom activities- it is silly to suggest they should be away from their reach. Maybe the boy has SEN.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

oh there are TWO threads on this

[DecorHate]

I posted on the other thread about this (under Primary Education). It's a bit stealth-like to not mention the hitting, etc at first.

[JackBauer]

I would just leave it TBH, and writing a letter will achieve nothing. He is 5, he won't understand ebing punixhed days after the event (which I assume is what you want)

Just so you know I do understand, DD1 was hit in the face with a stick by a boy in her class (of 4yr olds). We didn't find out what had happened until questionning her later that day. The boys mother still doesn't know he did it.

I was mroe angry that the teachers and TA's hadn't noticed a 4 yr old waving a big fecking stick around. I know of another child who had his hand cut with grown up scissors while they TA's weren't watching.
It is pointless being angry at the children beyond punishing then, they need adult guidance to learn to behave and you need to make it clear that they need to stop the hitting/pushing, which is more worrying (that it is ongoing)

[iMum]

A good reason to make sure hair is tied back or even better plaited.

[seeker]

Bizarre that the quite long OP is about the hair cutting - (and a bit worrying that mother and child are "devastated" about hair that will grow!) and no mention til later of the the school bag in the face, the "massive" chunks of hair being pulled out and the bruising.....