Daughter recovering from self harm/bullying

[ellmum110]

I have a daughter 13 who has had the most horrific year, she was bullied heavily all year by a group of boys and she was resorting to self harm as a way to cope for this for 8 months. She ended up in hospital from a wound and that was the turning point she came clean about everything and is now in therapy and the school are aware of whats been going on now and the boys are currently suspended. I cannot believe how i didnt notice any of this i did notice she had become more withdrawn but i thought she was just becoming a moody teacher. Thankfully she is attending counselling and recovering well and seems okay now all the bullying has come to an end, ive heard the boys responsible are quite shaken up and ive heard one feels extremely guilty. My daughter has in fact gone behind my back to speak to her school alone and ask the currently suspended boys to be given another chance and no consequence given as she just wants to forget about it all now and that SHE has to take some responsibility for things getting as bad as they did as she didnt handle it in the right way. I dont even know what to do this has all just come out of nowhere, im still just in shock really. She doesent really want to talk about it and says she just wants to focus on getting over it and back to normal, which i guess is positive i guess but the only thing she does say is she strongly regrets and feels ashamed that she was harming herself and says she acted like a complete child and wish she could go back and handle this more maturely. Is this a positive self reflective thing or not i dont have a clue? Also in regards to the boys responsible i know they are young and young people make mistakes but it just doesent quite sit right that they may not be consequenced, am i in the wrong here?

[Mysticguru]

I would be supportive whilst she's processing this incredibly difficult period in her life. She will hopefully work through it with the counsellor in a non judgemental way and come to realise the truth.
Just be there for her and listen without judgement.