oh god i sooo wasnt going to get sucked into this and this is already my second post on this kind of thread. no-one is saying that breast isnt best. i dont beleive this thread was started to "encourage bottle feeding". it was started to state the reasons why people do..now if im correct, this thread contains the answers to the question originally asked on the other thread? so why do i see some breastfeeders jumping in here and being aggressive? if you ask a question why is it so neccessary to jump in the air at the response? this is why mums who bottle feed get so defensive, because we are slated and jumped on wherever we go..there is no escape. has anybody actually stopped to think what we are doing to each other? i have a question to breastfeeding mums..if you met a woman in real life who bottle fed..if she was a truly nice person and you liked her..would you fall out with her because she bottlefed? because thats what is happening here. would you walk up to her with a stack of papers on breastfeeding and throw them in her face? no, i dont think you would. perspective please...there are so many worse things in life. people are leaving left right and centre because of these threads and it just isnt fair. mn is a place of support and understanding (well it was anyway). what do these kind of threads say to anyone new looking in? that we cant have a reasonable debate about the pros and cons of feeding methods and we have to resort to slating each other thats what. ive been here long enough to know there are good people who i like and respect regardless of how they choose to feed their child but thats not saying a newbie would feel the same when they see some of the posts. lots of the breastfeeding mums on the other thread are people i like a lot, have spoken to before and i would really hate to fall out with them but i know that as someone who bottle fed both my children im in the firing line. im just so fed up with these rows. they are never ending.