I am black, exDH is white. DD1 aged 7 has very fair skin and her hair is an unusual colour (not at all dark). She looks white. DD2 aged 5 has brown skin. We live in a very white area, but there are a handful of BAME children in their school.
DD1 has lately started saying that she wants to be a black woman, she wishes she was black, can she paint her skin brown, can she have surgery to change her skin colour. She says she wants to be a black woman because: black women are strong, they fight for their rights, she wants to have brown skin like me, and nobody else has her exact skin tone (I explained this is true for just about everyone!)
I don't know where to go with this. I have been explaining the usual that we all look different and it's great to be proud of me, she is part black but she should also be proud of her own skin and looks. I'm basically trying to have the same kind of conversation I would if brown DD2 came to me and said she wanted to change her skin (she has once said her sister has better skin than her because it's lighter 😞).
Any suggestions/advice??
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cockneylass · 04/12/2020 06:25
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