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M/C, D&C tomorrow I'm so scared

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Xena · 18/05/2005 13:20

I'm so sad saw the baby on the scan they think it died at 10 or 11 weeks. I'm so scared about the General Anastetic tomorrow what if something goes wrong and I leave my 3DC's with no Mum. My blood pressure is quite low and I'm so worried.

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wag1987 · 05/02/2021 17:53

@NoProblem123 yes I realised this after a posted it but wrote on the correct thread afterwards

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NoProblem123 · 05/02/2021 17:01

This is a really old thread wag but ai hope you’re ok and it wasn’t painful for you.
Flowers

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wag1987 · 02/02/2021 20:10

Due to have D&C tomorrow under LA so will be awake. I'm extremely nervous about it. Has anyone else been through this and what does it feel like? Painful ?

Thanks

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bubble99 · 20/05/2005 23:52

Take care Xena. Pleased to hear that, physically, you're feeling Ok and also that the anaesthetist carried out his duties correctly and told really bad jokes.

Love

BubbleXXXX

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Diddle · 20/05/2005 18:22

Oh bless your DS, fancy thinking that, wonder what made him think that. hope he'll be ok.
Its hard to imagine getting through this and out the other side, but i think once its not so raw that you will be able to start to think about trying again. If thats what you want.
Never had a d&c so can't say i know what you've been through, but i hope you're doing ok.

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Xena · 20/05/2005 13:10

Hi Diddle abit lost really. I know that there was something wrong with the baby but it doesn't stop the whole loss of the family being complete that we were hoping for. I have always had abit of a bee in my bonnet about age gaps between the children so that they will be resonable close in age and children together IYKWIM. DS will be 8 in Dec DD1 nearly 4 DD2 18mths. There is a bigger gap between DS and DD because DH and I were having a few marital probs and broke up for a while.
Plus after DD was born they diagonsed Poly C overies so they thought that I would need fert treatment but then I fell pg with DD2, they advised us after DD2 was born that if we wanted anymore we should start trying once she was 9mths as the body regulates its hormones when pg so the PO shouldn't be such a prob. I'm not sure what to do because if we want another one then it needs to be now rather than later 1. because of the age gaps and 2. because the longer we leave it the less chance we have of conceiving again.
I'm just not sure I want to go through it again.
DS asked me this morning if we could try again to get him a brother and I asked him 'what if its another sister' to which he replied it wouldn't matter he just wanted another baby. He also somehow thinks it was him that made the baby die??? goodness knows why.

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Diddle · 20/05/2005 12:28

xena - how are you feeling today? Hope you're getting through it ok.

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Mirage · 19/05/2005 21:35

I'm glad to hear that you are back at home Xena.Please take care of yourself,a GA can affect you for several days,so take things easy.

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Nemo1977 · 19/05/2005 20:44

xena hugs take care of urself

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CADS · 19/05/2005 20:40

(((HUGS)))

Take care of yourself. We missing you on the Nov thread already.

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pindy · 19/05/2005 20:26

Great to hear you're back home - good news that everything went ok. The worst is behind you now. Take care of yourself and be looked after
:-)

Sleep well tonight. Thinking of you.

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expatinscotland · 19/05/2005 17:07

aw, xena! glad you're okay! (((hugs))) to you.

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dyzzidi · 19/05/2005 17:07

I'm glad you are ok xena.

Rest up and take it easy!

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Xena · 19/05/2005 17:06

Thank you for all you kind messages. I have been home snce about 2pm and the anaesthetic is wearing off now so the I'm starting to feel uncomfortable. It feels strange that I was aloud home as I have laid on the settee for the last few hours and don't really remember much I don't remember the ride home from the hospital. I'm not sure why but they did need to put the tube down my throat? My throat is starting to feel sore now and theres a funny taste in it. I remember being sick in the anaesthetic room and they put some medicine in my canular to stop it. The anaesthetist was telling jokes and I ask him when I would go to sleep and he ask if I was in that much of a hurry to get away from him. Then he told me not to worry if I had any gold fillings he would nick them when I was asleep. But really the staff were all kind the nurses and the anaesthetist reasured me s much as they could.

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MINNIE1 · 19/05/2005 14:15

Xena,
So sorry to hear of you loss
I MC last year between 9-11 wks, i had a d&c and it all went fine. (the hardest thing was the 12 hour wait)
they will give you pain killers if your in pain afterwards and loads of TLC. I found it hard to deal with but in the end i could have been waiting a while to mc naturally so this was the best option.
Will be thinking of you xx

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toomanypushchairs · 19/05/2005 13:25

sorry, obviously meant she is ok, as in she's back from theatre

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toomanypushchairs · 19/05/2005 13:18

Hi, Xena is ok. Had it done this morning. She's still sleepy but is going to try and get up. they won't let her out till she's eaten, wee'd etc

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Diddle · 19/05/2005 13:12

xena - my thoughts are with you today, i hope that it all goes well for you, i feel so sad for what has happened to you and your family.

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bubble99 · 18/05/2005 23:49

Xena. I'm so sorry to hear about your baby. On the practical side I can reasuure you that the operation itself will take only about 5-10 minutes. The anaesthetic you'll probably be given is designed for daycare surgery in that it is short-acting and you will recover quickly. The op is so quick that you will probably not even need to be intubated (tube passed into airway) so you will not need to have any of the heavier anaesthetic drugs. I've worked as a recovery nurse and patients are usually so surprised after this operation to see how little time they spent in theatre. Fear of not waking up/dying is a common thing and your anaesthetist should be able to reassure you. In my experience they tell such corny jokes that you'll be desperate to be anaesthetised to get away.

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Mirage · 18/05/2005 21:55

Xena,I'm so sorry to hear about your sad loss.I have very low bp & had to have an ectopic pregnancy removed under GA a couple of years back.I was terrified,as I'd only ever been under a GA once before,but I was ok.

The sadness is hard to cope with,but please take advantage of any support offered.I lost my baby in 2002,but I light a little candle every 26th Sept & 22nd May (date I had the op & date baby would have been due)so he/she knows that they aren't forgotten.

I hope tomorrow passes as easily as possible for you.

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golds · 18/05/2005 19:38

Xena, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my baby just over 2 weeks ago, it was ectopic. I was petrified of going to theatre and was shaking all the way, so I understand your anxiety.

I had told my 2 children about the baby, dh explained to them what had happended and they were great, didn't seem to have bothered them particularly. They are so loving to me at the moment and understand that Mummy isn't feeling great, its amazing, no matter if they have behaved like little 'monkeys' in the past, they jusy know not too now. Ds even asked if I would like his help to get on the trampoline tonight so I could bounce with him, I declined and sent dh out instead.

When I left hospital, unfortunately I wasn't offered any form of councelling, so I visited my local nurse instead, she has been a great help to me just letting me talk and cry.

Be kind to yourself and except any help thats offered. Thinking of you, take care x

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marthamoo · 18/05/2005 18:22

Xena, I'm so sorry. Take care.

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Xena · 18/05/2005 18:21

Thanks everyone for your support and thoughts.
Marina I went to Q Marys but they have been really supportive and kind.

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jangus · 18/05/2005 18:18

Xena, I'm so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
xxx

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lucysmum · 18/05/2005 17:18

i had an emergency D&C on Monday as i was bleeding so heavily following miscarriage. My bp went very low but they controlled it with extra fluids and I had 4 units of blood afterwards but home now and feeling OK. GA was fine, just like being asleep. Pls don't worry, just concentrate on getting better afterwards

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