Harvey- how do you handle significant BAD anniversaries?

[Bobbins]

My dds, Harvey died on the25th March last year. I'm not sure how I am coping with it. I'm not sure if I should take that day off work or not. It might transpire that I am alone that day if I don't go into work. A strange coincidence has occured. My prescription of Prozac runs out on Monday, the day before the anniversary. My six months is up.

Harvey is buried miles away, due to the lack of woodland burial sites in this country. I'm planning to go down there to his grave (and my mothers-they are buried next to eachother) on my birthday, the day before Harvey was buried.It's a difficult time and I'm not sure how to handle it. Is it just another day toget through, or should it be significant and marked in some way? How do other people deal with these days?

Myspacebarstill doesn'tworkproperly.GRRRR

[Philippat]

hugs for the rest of the year from me

[Philippat]

hugs for the rest of the year from me

[Rosy]

Hi Bobbins - I'm glad you survived yesterday. I hope the years to come will be easier. I agree with the person who said that these things creep up on you at the most unexpected times though, not necessarily on significant dates. I took the day off work on my significant bad anniversary, and didn't really do anything, but then I was crying my eyes out at these posts yesterday. I guess it's only natural (and good) that our children are so close to the surface of our thoughts. Love Rxxx (Right, going off to compose a cheerful post).

[Girly]

Have shed a tear for you Bobbins and another few for Harvey. Be good to yourself and your dp. xx

[prufrock]

Bobbins - Pancakes can be eaten any time they make you feel better. I hope they worked.

[Bobbins]

Up BASRA


down with 'friendly' fire.



and apparentlypancakesarejustforonceamonth.

[Bobbins]

gah.....preview should be used!

[Bobbins]

Phew....got through it. Went to Loch Fyne withmy Dad Lots of attention today ....not least from you lot....and lots of communication with ex and ex mil....still heavily angry with him...but it was good to find common ground.

I've just taught dp to cook pancakes.....yum.....so I have a stack waiting.


Thanks somuchpeople....I today was a biggie....hopefully the other days will gradually easier.

Lots of Loveand thanks

[willow2]

Oh Bobbins, hope you are ok. Thinking of you lots xxx

[aloha]

Bobbins, I think of you and Harvey all the time. Your story touched me so much. I obviously cannot imagine what you have been through. But you had him and he was yours and always will be and you were lucky to have each other even for such a brief time as there was so much love there. I wish you both peace and that you will have all the happiness possible in the future.

[WideWebWitch]

Bobbins, the day is nearly over, so you're nearly through it. I truly hope tomorrow is easier.

[Chinchilla]

X

[Zoe]

Just to add my thoughts and love to you too.

Zoe
xxxxxxxx

[MABS]

thinking of you today,take care

[bells2]

Lovely to hear that your HV has been so thoughtful and also nice to hear that at least in some way, you and your ex have been brought together today. All the best. xxx.

[snowbird]

I've been thinking of you today, Bobbins. Take care of yourself.
Love & hugs
Snowbird xxx

[bundle]

oh Bobbins, how lovely that hv, dad etc are being so sweet, x

[Bobbins]

Just spoken to ex....he is at the grave's crying.

I said I wish we were going through this together....he said...."we are...sort of"...I suppose we are really.

My Dad offered to take me clothes shopping....bless him...he's trying to be Mum

Had a card from my health visitor...and a little book of Dalai Lama thinkings from a friend...opening paragraph;

"I think that every human being has aninnate sense of "I". We cannot explain why that feeling is there, but it is. Along with this comes a desire for happiness and a wish to overcome suffering. This is quite justified: we have a natural right to achieve as much happiness as possible, and we also have the right to overcome suffering."

[Bobbins]

I'm overwhelmed.

I've had SO many good wishes today

Harvey used to be very forthright with his cuddles. He used to smother his nursery mates.

I've not gone to work today...I'm just leaving some time aside to think of him.

[webmum]

love and cuddles, bobbins

xxxxxx

[bundle]

thinking of you Bobbins, every day must be hard but especially today, xxx

[CAM]

Love and hugs Bobbins xxxxxxxxxx

[jessi]

Hi Blobbins
I'm so glad you had a dp to give you a cuddle last night and listen to you, and he is absolutely f*ing right, it isn't fair, at all.
I am heartened too that your ex texted you on this terribly sad day.
Massive hugs and best wishes girl,
Jessi xxx PS I have been tryiny to mail you at home but it keeps getting returned?