My father died 3 months ago. He was in his 90s, had a very good life but really struggled with the restrictions of very old age and died, very suddenly, before he lost his dignity. He was so loved by all his children, grandchildren and had great grandchildren he was so proud of. Every time we visited, we knew it may be the last time we saw him. I feel really fortunate to have had in my life for such a long time.
I have a very elderly dog. I've had him since a puppy and he's nearly 17 now. His old age compared to my father's are so similar. My life, for the past 2 years, has been basically making sure he comes to no harm. He's blind, demented, losing his muscle tone, but happy, eats, drinks, sleeps, walks slowly. I can't leave him alone anymore so am permanently on dog duty to make sure he's safe. I know, once he's gone, I will get a bit of 'freedom' back. We've had so much fun when he was younger, memories of which I will always treasure.
I cannot stop weeping. I cry every day, in private. I'm getting more distressed every day, this past week. I know my dog will die, sooner rather than later, but I am finding it really difficult to cope with the grief of this expectation after the expectation of my father's demise for so long.
Just a self absorbed post, really. Hoping others may understand.
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CurlyPoodles · 18/03/2024 19:07
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