3 months ago, my healthy, active, normal and wonderful mum was taken to hospital because her face looked like it had slightly dropped. I was 36 weeks pregnant, my sister was 20 weeks pregnant and it was the day before my 30th birthday and we were all going away for the night to celebrate. Today we’ve put the notice out for her funeral.
She was diagnosed with lung cancer that spread to her brain. It obviously wasn’t curable, but got told treatable and she was given medication to fight it. She was so scared and wanted to live. She hated that she had such an illness when she had always looked after her body and even tried to get more healthy to fight it. She was happy to meet my baby but so sad and scared on other occasions it’s broken my heart. We lost her last Saturday. She had a stroke like seizure on Monday night, after being with me all day, fell asleep in hospital and never came home. She didn’t want to leave the house and kept asking for us to take her home.
We have such a close family, saw my mum daily, she was so excited to finally get granddaughters as we only had boys before. The family home we grew up in, my mum and dads dream home, the one where all our memories are that me and my sister have jumped in and out of, just feels awful now.
My dad is living with my sister. None of us can cope going back into our family home. The neighbours are feeding the cats. When you enter everything that my mum left there, that she planned to pick back up, is sat still waiting. The books she bought on cancer to help her body are where she sat and the book on positive manifestations to beat it has writing in it. It is utterly heartbreaking to step into the house that my mum lovingly decorated, filled with her things. We were all so unprepared for this that we can’t face it.
I was wondering if there was anyone here who had this experience and how did they get through it? We can’t bare to have my dad live in there by himself, it’s pretty big and seems like a ghost house now. How did you face it? Any tips to deal with it?
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Thby2023 · 07/03/2024 18:49
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