You're young, you can have another baby...

[gemloving]

My baby was stillborn at 35 weeks. I find this comment so insensitive. If my husband died, would anyone say this? You're young, you can re- marry.

Sorry I just felt angry as someone said it again today and it made me sad and I hadn't spoken about it so putting my feelings on here ❤️

[IdaPrentice]

That's an awful thing to say to anyone who's lost a baby.

So sorry for your loss. 🌷

[Prizefighter]

So sorry for your loss. You are right to feel exactly as you do.

If you can, try not to dwell on stupid things people say, you will feel a little bit better if you can focus on the good intention. Hard though.

[Hiddenvoice]

I’m really sorry for your loss 🤍

I know it’s hard but try ignore idiotic comments like that and focus on you just now.

[Gluteustothemaximus40]

People find death difficult and as humans we rush to fix things with ‘positive’ or ‘helpful’ comments. In truth we just need to listen and say, that’s awful, I’m so sorry, and I’m here.

[IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece]

The person who said that is a cunt.


I’m sorry you didn’t get to take your baby home, would you like to tell us something about them 💐

[lovemycbf]

You've every right to feel angry as it's about the worst thing anyone can say to you.
I'm so sorry for your loss of a beautiful baby
Try ignore stupid comments from people as some really don't know what to say or do

[itsgettingweird]

That's an abhorrent thing for someone to say.

I'm so sorry for your loss and the insensitivity towards it

[Surroundedbyfools]

Im so so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine how painful this must be. Ppl r unbelievably stupid and Insensitive. What a thing to say to anybody. Just block it out and don’t speak to them

[Moier]

So sorry for your loss..
That's so insensitive..
I'd love to hear all about your baby if you're up to and feel like sharing .
Sending you healing thoughts.

[WaltzingWaters]

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss, I couldn’t imagine going through that, and for peoples silly insensitive comments. I’m sure they meant no harm and were just trying to find something to say to you, but it is of course a very stupid thing to say. Nothing will replace the baby you have lost.

Again, sorry for your loss and I wish you all the best in healing after your loss.

[gemloving]

Thank you so much everyone. It helped me that others acknowledged it's not nice.

@Gluteustothemaximus40 you're right. I'm sure the intention wasn't bad but it was hard to process.

@IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece @Moier he weighed 5lb6oz, he had lots of hair, he looked just like his big brother (basically my middle child). It all happened so fast & he just looked like he was sleeping. He's got two older brothers, the eldest (he's just turned 5) talks about him every day and I hate that he carries this grief and sees me cry. I just wish he was here. I still struggle with it all despite the fact it's been 6 months 💜

[Highfivemum]

I am so so sorry for your loss. That is a very insensitive thing to say and must have really hurt you. People are not genuinely cruel some just don’t know what to say and instead of saying nothing they say the wrong thing. I am sorry to hear this happened.
your little boy sounds beautiful and will always be in your heart.
take care and sending a big hug.

[adriftinadenofvipers]

I am so so sorry you lost your baby boy.

I think people just don't know what to say - they don't mean to hurt you but they come out with some shit!

Have you had any counselling? I think that might help you. Love xx

[Mepop]

I had that comment after my stillbirth. It is such an awful thing for anyone to say. I am so sorry it happened to you too.

[Anguish]

Sadly I lost both partner AND unborn child, so no, I can't have another baby. Comments like this really suck, but I think they're coming from a good place.

[endofthelinefinally]

I am so sorry for your loss.
Six months is no time at all. You never get over the loss of a child. You gradually get better at living with it. People generally mean well, but unless they have personal experience they really don't get it.
I think it is ok to cry and to talk to your DC in an age appropriate way and allow them to process things. It is healthier for everyone, including small children, to acknowledge loss and grief IME.