My good neighbour/friend lost her partner very suddenly two weeks ago late 40’s.
I see her every other day or so as we live nearby but when we are near enough to talk she screams at me: “leave me alone”, “I don’t want to talk about it” before I’ve even managed to say hi.
I completely appreciate she is not ready to talk but is almost always with someone else when she shouts this at me. Am I supposed to blank her now or hide until she has gone past?
I have autism so don’t always pick up on social clues so some advice would be very much appreciated.
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HiDeDi · 04/05/2022 11:48
ChateauMargaux · 04/05/2022 11:57
How awful.. for her to have lost her partner suddenly but also for you if she screams at you when she sees you.
Write her a note: Dear neighbour.. I am so sorry for your loss and your clear distress. It is very clear to me that you don't want to talk to me about it and that is fine. I promise not to talk to you about it until you want to. I am sorry that us passing in the street is causing you such distress, but if this relieves one part of your distress, I will not speak to you. Your dear friend and neighbour,, HiDeDi
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