I very suddenly, and completely unexpectedly lost my Mum on the 31st January. She had just turned 61, I’m 33. Because of the circumstances I’m awaiting a coroners verdict and death certificate etc. I’m an only child, and sole executor and beneficiary of her will. We worked together, spoke almost every single day, and were incredibly close.
She had no life insurance, and a mortgaged house in which she lived alone so I need to get on with preparing the house to market it, for the sale to go ahead to settle the mortgage and a secured debt, and then complete probate.
In my mind I know that deciding which of her items to keep, and which I cannot keep is going to be the very hardest part for me whilst preparing the house, and I know that I absolutely cannot market the house with her personal belongings in there (she would HATE other people touching or messing with her things) so I’m thinking of getting rid of the easy wins, the spare bedding, towels, misc clothes of no importance to me, every day plates and such like, and then packing up the rest of her personal effects (the China, Glass wear, decorative ornaments that I don’t wish to leave in the house whilst marketing), putting them in storage and then dealing with them when I am emotionally ready to do so. I’ll leave enough furniture for the house to be appropriately marketed, and not a scrap more as it’s quite over crowded as it is.
I can’t really do everything all in one go as I work full time as a Nurse Specialist, the house is a 50mile round trip from me, and I have a disability which flares up significantly when I over exert myself - also I’m going to be dealing with the rest of her affairs alongside this too.
Does this sound like the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever heard? Or does it sound fairly reasonable and maybe a good way of ensuring I don’t have regrets in months to come that I’ve got rid of something in haste during my grief that I cannot replace?
If anyone has any tips or suggestions please give them - I don’t have a clue what I’m doing with this, and none of my friends, nor my surviving parent have lost a parent either.
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Orangesox · 08/02/2022 23:29
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