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should I expect any more clots to pass? (tmi sorry)

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pipsqueeke · 04/08/2007 09:46

I had a scan on tuesday only to find the baby had stopped growing about a week ago. tuesday morning I passed the sac and had some clotting heavy bleeding etc weds had cramp and v heavy bleeding more cramping on thrus but did pass a v large clot(the placenta i'm assuming had the liver type look) bleeding then remained heavy (as thought it would) but tailed off a little last night. have this morning woken up and passed another smaller (but large enough for a 'plop' - tmi sorry) today. I thouhgt it was all finished with on thurs so this has set me back a bit

my last natural m/c at 5 weeks everything was pretty much finshed within 5 days, which was 2 days of intense cramps and v v heavy bleeding followed by just heavy bleeding. (first one at 7.5 weeks was done by op)

was doing quite a bit yesterday - althou DH would argue that fact! lol. any thoughts?

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pipsqueeke · 17/08/2007 18:26

belgo - i'm glad you're trying again - DH has pretty much left it up to me.

jack it is funny isn't it how they pick things up. we'd not told DS either - how exactly you tell a 16 month old god only knows but he used to cuddle me and say baby. hasn't done it since all of this happened, odd how they know - if indeed they do?

must have been heart breaking to tell DD thou.

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Jackstini · 17/08/2007 14:55

Oh Belgo - that must have been heartbreaking strange how they pick up things isn't it

belgo · 17/08/2007 13:36

Jacks - we hadn't told my dds I was pregnant, but dd1 must have picked up on it somehow because she pointed to my tummy and said 'baby' soon after my m/c. I told her, no there's no baby.

Jackstini · 17/08/2007 13:24

Pip - I know what you mean about your ds.
When I came back from the EPU I saw the positive PT I had taken that morning and it just broke me. dd heard and came running in, flung her arms around me and patted my hair. Bless her - I thank my lucky stars for her every day now, even more so than before

belgo · 17/08/2007 13:21

I'm fine. I was on my own when I actually miscarried - I'm glad my dds didn't see me in that state.

I've been a bit worried because dh didn't seem too keen on TTC again - but we've decided now that we will try.

pipsqueeke · 17/08/2007 13:01

truely it is, I still well up now thinking about it - if mum wasn't here with me I don't knwo how id' have managed seeing everything as I just broke down. DS was crying cos I was hysterical. the dogs were running about whiining and trying to jump up and make sure I was ok.

I'm thinking now about when the next one's due whilst also thinking do I really want to do this?

bro/his GF are coming on sun - the last time I saw them we were talking about the babys as they'd just found out she was expecting

how are you doing now?(sorry i'm rude not to ask b4)

(was scanned on weds and all is clear and has gone now - had neg tests so I guess that's all that then )

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belgo · 17/08/2007 12:58

I still catch myself thinking of baby names.

belgo · 17/08/2007 12:58

it's shocking isn't it seeing the sac.

pipsqueeke · 17/08/2007 12:56

it's such a horrid thing to have happen. I found passing the sac the worst part.

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belgo · 17/08/2007 12:53

pips - I've searched her name, and it seems as if they won't scan her to make sure she has had a complete miscarriage. I think that's awful.

pipsqueeke · 17/08/2007 12:51

I know I still think about my first - that was ooh 9 years ago now that baby would have been born around DS's birthday (like the other two - I seem to catch around june time. lol)

belgo - no not heard anything. will look on my other thread to see if she's there - have you searched her name?

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fawkeoff · 17/08/2007 12:27

no it doesn't make you selfish.....it makes you human.You just dont want to go through the pain of losing another baby, i felt exactly the same way, but bit the bullet after a while.You may feel differantly about things in a few weeks.It will never fully go away, you will always feel a bit sad about it. Its been 6 and half years since my first and i still feel sad on dates i remember x

belgo · 17/08/2007 12:26

just a quick hijack, has anyone seen Milf? she was having a scan yesterday and I'd like to hear how she is.

pipsqueeke · 17/08/2007 12:24

I know seems like that month was a bad one for a lot of us. have seen you on lcy's thread as well. be good to yourslef - and althou it won't change the out come if you're home or away it will be nice to be in your own surroundings iycwim?

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Jackstini · 17/08/2007 12:19

Thanks Pip - I am trying to keep busy too to get past these 2 weeks (you probably saw the other thread)
I can't believe how many of us from the March thread have ended up on here
Will be joining you and Rach on the ttc after mc threads soon hopefully. I hope you get some answers from the doc or some tests booked to find some anyway xx

pipsqueeke · 17/08/2007 12:18

I was stressed with DS thou until 12 weeks then until 20 weeks. now this time I feel like i'll never be able to relax again - I want to get PG so much again really quickly. but I know that's prob not the best thing to happen . tbh I think i'd rather stick with one DS than have another m/c - does that make me selfish?

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fawkeoff · 17/08/2007 12:07

hi pipsqueeke.....sorry i didnt get back to ur question earlier. i didnt have 3 consecutive miscarriages.I had 2 then dd, then another..then ds.You are going to have low days when u feel so sad, but this is normal....remember that ur grieving the loss uf your baby and it's going to take time to heal x and its pefectly normal to worry about future pregnancies....i was neurotic all the way through having dd and ds x

pipsqueeke · 17/08/2007 11:50

I felt odd in retrospect if you will knowing that the bean had died a week before the bleeding started and everything came away.

we're doing ok thanks- had a bit of a bad day yesterday - was left alone all day and althou was nice and quite gave me time to think about things I didn't want to think about - and tbh everything's physically fine and back to normal but emotionally it will take some time - realised yesterday I keep busy and think of other things so I don't have to deal with it all.

have got a dr's apt booked for tues next week so will see what's said then - hopefully will ahve some actions.

I think the waiting part is the absolute worst. `hope you are (as much as poss) able to relax and everyhting happens natrually. tbh i'm glad in a way that I didn't have to make the choice, as everything seems to ahve settled down quickly again

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Jackstini · 16/08/2007 16:59

Bit wierd Pip tbh. Just feels odd that it is still all inside me.
I am waiting to see if nature takes it's course for now. Got an appointment on Sep 3rd to either check all gone, or if not, go down the medical/surgical route then.
Am trying to keep everything else as normal as poss, am away this weekend with work and next weekend with a couple of Aunties so hoping the time will go as fast as poss.
How are you feeling now?

pipsqueeke · 15/08/2007 14:56

oh jack - i'm so sorry for you honney (((hugs))))

be good to yourself, how are you feeling within your self?

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Littlefish · 13/08/2007 17:53

Meant to say - so sorry to hear your news too Jackstini.

Littlefish · 13/08/2007 17:52

Pip, so sorry you're going through this. I would just like to second the suggestion about acupuncture. I wasn't ovulating, due to low progesterone. After 3 months of acupuncture, I was ovulating normally.

My practitioner and her husband work together on couples who have been ttc without success. So far (said in a whisper, and with fingers crossed so I don't jinx it!), they have treated 10 couples and all 10 have had healthy babies. We were the first!

I hope you get some answers from your dr.

Jackstini · 13/08/2007 17:47

Hi Pip - unfortunately I am joining you on these threads - had some bad twinges and stopped feeling sick so went for an early scan today. Have had a missed miscarriage - looks like baby dies about 3/4 weeks ago. Just waiting to see now if things happen naturally or if I need to go down the medical route. Will be reading some of these threads for advice I am sure.
Anyway, wanted to see how you were getting on, still planning to see doc next week to try and get some answers?

Frizbe · 07/08/2007 21:24

Pip hon, I know someone who miscarried twice before doing the accupuncture thing and the next one stuck, arrived last sun so fingers x'd for you if you decide to give it a try.

pipsqueeke · 07/08/2007 08:26

Jack - I shall be when I see her upon return from her hols - I mean how dare my dr go on holiday lol. but as this is now no 3 coupled with hormone probs from when I was a child I will be pushing for some sort of investigations. (althou in wales apparently my hormones were fine then? - so who knows)

friz - i've heard that as well - for the mo thou the problem doesn't seem to be getting pg it seems to be with keeping the beans alive and sticky.

am doing ok today - bleedin has more or less stopped (pretty much tbh) did a test today which was so faint it was bearly noticeable on my cheapo ultra sensitive ones so I guess that's that . went out yesterday for a play date with DS - was nice for him tbh to get out and see another child! lol. (human contact other than DH and I!) we're off out again today so I have no doubt he'll enjoy that - and we've got some OV tests etc so back in the sadle and off we go.

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