One of our friends lost their baby just before Christmas. Through a scan they learnt the baby had no heartbeat. Surely no one was prepared for this as everyone thought all was going well.
On Christmas day via a C-section we learnt the baby was a little girl. We haven't learnt as yet why the baby died. The mum is really down as anyone would expect and our hearts are with them.
We have a beautiful little girl who charms everyone and we were both looking forward to seeing this new baby and for them to be playmates. Most of our items were going to be passed to her as it is ridiculous having to buy items that can be used again especially if they are in good condition.
We haven't seen the couple as yet to personally share our feelings. But when we do, it is like what do you say. It is a sad situation overall and they don't have a child while we do ours. How does one deal with this situation, what does one say? You don't want to say a lot nor say a little, as one might think you don't care, when it is the total opposite.
I do believe for them to get on in life, they will have to grieve and I think with the baby being only 3 months away from birth, it would be better to give her a name and not call it baby. They hadn't chosen any names as yet. I never found a name for mine until the last month so I can understand that.
Has anyone been in this situation and how did you handle it? What can we do to help? Any ideas and thoughts welcome.
My prayers and thoughts go out to those who have lost children.
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GenT · 09/01/2004 10:53
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