I have a friend who recently suffered a miscarriage....she's a fairly distant friend so not someone I can just turn up at the doorstep and give a hug to.
I'm now pregnant and our other mutual friends all of whom have just had babies or have just announced their pregnancies and they have advised me to wait before I tell her because she is still very upset. I've now waited as long as I can and feel the fact that everyone else knows is also unfair to her. So what I can I do to tell her before she finds out and knows I've avoided telling her?
I thought I would write a note telling her the news but acknowledging the fact that if I were her I'd be pleased for me but also very sore and angry about what has happened. I figured this way she doesn't have to deal with faking a live reaction of joy when I know she will be very upset. Is that a bit patronising though?
Any advice gratefully received.
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robin3 · 12/12/2005 09:58
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