Pre schooler behaviour any support please?

[williteverstopraining2024]

Please tell me I’m not alone!

I am losing the will to live with my pre schooler!

He will be 4 in two weeks, there has been a quite a big change in his life at the moment where he has to wear an eye patch for 6 hours a day which has been for the last few weeks i am not sure if it’s coincidence or it’s linked but his tantrums and meltdowns have been off the scale. Some days he will rip the patch off and I have to use charts or treats to get him to wear it which is fine and to be expected.

However He’s just started to become more and more hard work he can have a tempter tantrum that can last for about 30 mins nothing will seem to snap him out of it, getting on his level, ignoring him, persuading him, distraction nothing seems to work I have to let them ride out.

Todays have been about not wanting to get dressed, then not wanting to be strapped in car seat sat in the footwell for 20 mins, then didn’t want to get out the car when we arrived home so I left him in the car to which he was setting the alarms off so I had to wrestle him inside then he had a tantrum for 30 mins re this kicking the front door trying to get back out, hitting me screaming crying.

Then just everything like lunch time if something isn’t the way he wants it wrong colour plate spoon, I have put too much cheese on top little or I let him do it himself then it’s something else

I am drained to the point where I am dreading the two days a week I have with him and I feel absolutely awful for it! If he asks me to do something and I get it wrong then he will just throw it at me or go mental! He just asked me to do something with his Lego and because I got it wrong he’s hit me on the side of the head.

He doesn’t have these episodes with nursery or grandparents seems to be more often than not just me or sometimes dad too.

Feeling a bit lost with it all

[CadyEastman]

I'm not surprised you're struggling if he's throwing objects at you.

How was he before the eyepatch arrived?

[williteverstopraining2024]

To be honest I feel like I can't seem to remember if this was before the patch or not!

I feel like his anger is definitely worse

[CadyEastman]

I know he's not having these tantrums at Nursery but have you spoken to his Keyworker to see if they have any concerns?

How is he at expressing himself? My DD could talk but had problems expressing how she felt which resulted in meltdowns.

You can check his speech and language here.

[williteverstopraining2024]

Spoke to nursery they have said that they can't believe how he is at home as they have never seen him like that and wouldn't expect this of him and have no concerns at all!

His speech is great, he can't seem to regulate his anger.

[CadyEastman]

So was the progress checker saying he was ok? Which I know it probably was but worth going anyway

[bakingmummy21]

I’ve just posted about my 4yr3mo old’s behaviour too, feeling very down about it. Similar to you we have no issues at preschool but terrible behaviour at home. I keep hoping it is a phase but it’s been ongoing for a while now 🙁