I am trying my best to bring up ds as properly as possible as a working single parent with no family support and a rather unsavoury ex. Naturally I have had to enlist the help of childcare. I have noticed that Xbox games which aren't appropriate for ds's age adversely affect him. However I have tried to help him fit in since it would appear that the vast majority of parents allow their children to play whatever game and at whatever age they fancy. I have limited them to weekend use in moderation only. I appear to be the odd one out here? The childminder questions my parenting all the time, why do I not give him much diet coke, why does he not eat many sweets, why does he not watch 18 plus games (when he is 10!) - since I have found it to totally adversely affect his behaviour. Ds is a highly sensitive child and easily led and has always been a handful. She is very generous and will think nothing of buying him on ocasions an enormous bag of sweets and when he comes home that evening he is feeling full and ill and cannot eat a healthy meal whatsoever. I have instructed ds to merely eat half a packet. I do wish ds to have a normal childhood after all and I was given sweets and occasional junk food too. However this was only in moderation.
In addition I have tried to recently encourage him to learn to clean the home. All good life skills you would think yes? I was brought up this way too. Apparently nobody else at school is learning to clean the bathroom and I am not popular with ds for teaching this. Is this true? Do parents not teach their boys to clean the home. Is this just the domain of girls? Are we still living in the dark ages?
A friend of mine with a phd and a really excellent salary has had 3 children and has not taught any of them to use the washing machine before they left home. Is she not bringing up unfit children? I was taught so many life skills as an only child I was brought up nicely and to learn manners and respect. Those days were better in my opinion. Nowadays all we get is behavioural problems with too much use of gadgets, too much junk food being available and pressure to give treats to our children and children leaving home unable to fend for themselves.
Ds's best friend learns to clean their house so I know they are decent parents. Do they just wish to perpetuate sexism and another incompetent male who is useless in a relationship and useless living on his own?
A [platonic man friend in the neighbourhood has a son in his thirties who is incapable of cooking and cleaning. I blame the parenting myself there is no excuse. My 61 year old friend will still do all his ironing for him as he is unemployed and has time. HE has taught him no life skills at all.
Am I the only normal parent left on the planet I feel in the minority here!
Other parents are putting their 10 year olds to bed at 11 pm at night on a SCHOOL DAY FFS!
Please give me feedback ladies tell me I am a fine parent and I am surrounded by more crap ones than good ones......!!
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Flowerpower41 · 03/10/2015 05:08
I'm a bit confused OP - you let your DS go to a less than satisfactory CM, you let him play 18 games ( but only at the weekend so that's alright then 
) but somehow because you force him to wipe round the bog occasionally you're a better parent than others?
Everyone is just doing the best they can surely ? Or should i say the majority of parents are - you should save your real judging for those who can't/won't prioritise feeding, cleaning and clothing their DC,or emotionally or physically abuse them.
DS sometimes plays a certain 18 game - not the one involving setting fire to prostitutes, but the one where he kills zombies. It's not really how I'd pictured my 9 yr old DS spending his time but a) DH won't back me up in it and b) the less I mention it the less he plays it and c) I haven't known any change in his behaviour when he does play it.
If it matters to you then you're the parent. You tell him to stop playing it and/or remove it from the house. Yes that means that he won't be able to play those games with his friends but if he's like DS then they play a range of stuff and it's mostly FIFA or Minecraft. Or you keep on the way you are and you own your own decision rather than blaming other people's parents.
Your reasoning is all over the place op.
Sort yourself out before criticising other. Changing the cm and binning the adult rated games would be a good start
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