Hi can anyone help please as i am really starting to feel fed up. My 13 month old is a high needs and very fussy baby. He is very tetchy, easily upset alot of the day over everything....e.g putting on is nappy, changing his clothes, sitting in a highchair, carseat, gets fed up and kicks off when the pram stops moving when we are out...ofte crying, whining, creating over most things...bit like jekyll and hyde as you never know when he will snap next. I feel we try so hard and follow all advise given but he hasnt changed and has been like this since he was born. It is wearing me out and quite soul destroying as i just want him to be happy. He gets plenty of sleep so it isnt this. He doesent like very busy places, like soft play places, often getting upset in them. Is all this normal?Can some babies just be like this? I worry there are underlying medical issues but i have been to the doc and consultant and they have no advise! Is there anymore i can dio to help? I just want us all to be happy. I try giving attention, ignoring the regular strops, distracting him, walking away, getting ouit and about as much as possible, making sure he has enough sleep etc....please can anyone help. Thanks.
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NessaWH123 · 11/04/2014 08:51
Things started getting better from 8 months, when he started crawling. That was the biggest single thing, other changes have been more gradual. Eg eating is still quite a battle but he started nursery age 11 months and he eats brill there so that helped as it put my mind at rest that he was at least eating well there 
. Sleeping - we caved and have been co-sleeping for the past 6 -7 months, it works as he now sleeps more or less all night most nights, so we are all better for it, rather than fighting to get him to sleep in is own bed in his own room. We are going to try him n a bed soon, he hated his cot passionately!
He is 2 1/2 now, still very much ticks a lot of the high needs stuff but he is just sooo much easier to be with now, I think being able to express himself helps a lot too.
He has been on airplanes a few times and used to bf to sleep, when we were still doing that. The last few times, though he screamed during take off and landing, seemed terrified! We flew at Xmas, with this, then just before we were flying over to visit family, we skyped them and he told his cousin 'go plane, up high' then he looked upset, clapped his hands over his ears and said 'sore ears!'. I was astonished he could remember that clearly but made sure we had a bottle for take off to try to help (it did!).
I didn't do a lot of baby group stuff for that very reason nessa. The screaming, oh dear God! He is so friendly and sociable now. Most of the time!
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